How Dare You Call Me A Slur I've Never Heard
The Wheel of What-Have-You was basically forgotten this episode in favor of some reminiscing and jawing about cultural theory, intersectionality, power and privilege, and why you should never date a graduate student. It was Beck's birthday last week and she came back a blistered lobster, but that only made her funnier. Remember to visit us on social media @queernecks and send us an email if you have a story to tell or idea to share at mailbag@queernecks.com.
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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Birthday Recap
00:50 Sunburn Stories and Swimming Adventures
03:05 Haunted Spaghetti and Food Talk
04:56 Cooking Memories and Recipes
08:35 Homelessness and Bowling Alley Job
15:12 Teaching Challenges and Social Justice
22:43 Hijinks and Childhood Memories
24:02 Childhood Games and Cousin Memories
25:14 Family Dynamics and Growing Up
26:19 Adventures and Mishaps
26:26 Drinking Stories and Party Days
30:16 Gift Giving and Love Languages
33:35 Social Media and Online Presence
38:38 Sponsor
41:51 Noun of Appalachian Interest
45:30 Conclusion and Future Plans
Transcript
Welcome to Queernecks, the podcast that
puts the yehaw in y'all means hall.
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:I'm your host, Beck, and I'm your host.
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:Dash.
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:Welcome to today's episode.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
So you had a good birthday.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: It
was, the day was wonderful.
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:The aftermath has been very painful.
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:I got not only a chest cold, but
blisters upon blisters on my shoulders.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: You're so shiny.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I know.
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:And red, my eyes were swollen from
this, like my eyelids were burnt.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh God.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
were swollen from being burnt.
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:It was bad.
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:And I have new blisters today.
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:Like why do four days
later do I have blisters?
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:That doesn't make sense to me.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I think, I
mean, it just sounds like you, you got it.
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:Good.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah,
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I don't
know why, but I always get real
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:embarrassed anytime I get a sunburn.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:I went and got my hair cut on
Tuesday and my, uh, the lady that
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:cuts my hair totally roasted me.
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:' cause we had sunscreen with us.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Just didn't
put off enough on or forgot it or,
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:Pretty much.
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:It was like, it was just an overcast day
and it wasn't very hot and just, you know,
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: mm.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
it would be fine and stupid.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
Was it the middle of the day
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: was it,
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
there at like:
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: oh, the,
that's when the sun is highest
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:you got there, like right when
the sun was directly overhead.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: We
stayed in the water the whole time.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: And that,
well this could be a, an old I've heard,
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:and I believe experienced the water
amplifying the sun's effect on skin.
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:because you can start a fire with a bag
of water, like zip a Ziploc bag of water.
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:Do you know that if you
hold it in the sun, right?
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:Yeah.
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:That's a, that's a like survivalist,
fire starting technique is to, well The
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:one I saw was this guy peed in a bag,
but, and you hold it above like dried
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:tender and it's like a magnifying glass.
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:The sun will start it if it's dry enough.
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:one time I went swimming and it was
early afternoon and, I was putting
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:on what I thought was suntan lotion.
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:And this was back, this in the two
thousands, everyone wanted to look
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:orange, like the Paris Hiltons and
you know, like that that bunch.
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:And there was a, product called
tanning accelerator or accelerant.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: And I
guess it's sort of like putting
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:olive oil on meat before you put
it in, you know, like crisps it up.
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:And that's what I was putting on, not, so
I left and I start, I was feeling weird.
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:I knew, I was like, something's wrong.
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:I'm just real hot or something.
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:And was with this girl I
was dating at the time and.
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:We got in the car and I just looked
down at my arm and I was like, what?
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:I'm purple.
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:My skin had turned purple.
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:and you could tell that it was like
the blood up underneath the skin and
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:I was like, something is real bad.
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:Wrong.
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:And by that evening,
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: now.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: yeah,
by that evening, that's the
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:worst sunburn I've ever had.
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:And it has made me, I have an abundance
of caution around the sun right now,
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:and I don't even burn that easy.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: yeah.
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:Neither do I.
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:I had some virgin skin showing,
I don't really wear bathing
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:suit parts very out very often.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
Where'd y'all go?
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: the
Mamee Bay State Park, their lodge,
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah,
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
have a really a, a nice pool.
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:we went there and swam for the day, and
then we went and got haunted spaghetti
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:at the spaghetti warehouse in Toledo.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Okay.
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:So what is haunted spaghetti?
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:Because I, I, you were sick and we were
texting, so I didn't ask you at the
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:time, but what is haunted spaghetti?
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: The, the
spaghetti warehouse, the restaurant
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:itself is supposedly haunted and
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Hmm.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: really creepy.
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:It's real dark in there, and there's
like a subway car that there's
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:seating inside of it, and there's
like a, a giant wooden Indian and
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:just random artifacts that make, and
it just feels real spooky in there.
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:It
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Nice.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
The food was good.
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:The f they, they brought all
the fresh bread we could eat.
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:Little loaves of bread.
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:We killed it.
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:our one friend got chicken, Alfredo.
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:Shanna got baked ziti and I got spaghetti
with meat sauce it was all delicious
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I think I
might actually fix some spaghetti.
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:I've been eating the same pot of
beans for a week it's nice 'cause
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:they don't go bad for hardly anything.
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:You can, if you cook 'em, if
you cook a pot of beans, they'll
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:stay good for a long time.
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:But then, you know, it's hard to
make just a small amount of beans.
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:And so now I'm like a little over it.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: yeah,
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: next thing
I fix, I'm gonna be carb loading.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: yeah.
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:We make spaghetti,
sauce and giant batches.
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:enough to make six nights worth of dinner.
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:We get, we do the night that we make it,
and then we get five for the freezer.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
You gave me some one time.
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:I remember Now, don't you make
yours, uh, you put butter in it?
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Uh,
that's, that's one way to make it.
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:It's an onion butter, tomato sauce.
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:That's,
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: spaghetti.
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:That's not my spaghetti that I make.
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:my spaghetti is a meat sauce and it has
like uh, green bell peppers and garlic
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:and, crushed tomatoes and everything.
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:Gr uh, toasted garlic.
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:And I put all those
things in my spaghetti.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: the
other one, it was a New York Times.
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:It was like a sensation.
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:A lot of people made it.
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:It was basically you
brown an onion in butter
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Mm-hmm.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: added
tomatoes to it and crushed it, and
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:made a sauce, and it was delicious.
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:You make it with angel hair.
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:Pasta is fantastic.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah, I
remember you gave me, because you
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:made a big batch of it and you,
you gave me a Tupperware of it.
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:What was the first thing
you learned to cook?
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
Uh, probably chili because my
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Hmm.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
didn't go all out.
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:It was basically hamburger, a can
of beans and a packet of seasoning.
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:And that was pretty much her chili.
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:you made it with peanut butter sandwiches
and it was, that was what it was.
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:I still make it that way, but
I add, I added extra beans and
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:tomatoes and a onion and, you know,
added more beef and less liquid.
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:and then probably spaghetti is the
second thing I learned to make.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah, I
think, I remember my mom, she taught
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:me her spaghetti meat sauce recipe.
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:And, um, I still make that one.
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:I also have a, uh, creamy
mushroom, sauce I like to make.
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:and obviously cooking
can mean a lot of things.
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:So the first thing I cooked was
probably just boiling water and
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:putting ramen noodle packets in it.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
Or grilled cheese.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: yeah,
that was, I cooked that one
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:for David and Vanessa a lot.
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:and then I, we had pot pies
and I would, I would fix those.
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:the very first cooking I did
probably wasn't what I would
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:consider cooking now, even though
it's still, we were feeding people.
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:So, but actual recipe, it was
mom, she taught me her biscuits
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:recipe, her cornbread recipe,
and her, spaghetti meat sauce.
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:And my dad taught me his chili recipe.
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:He cooked actually quite a bit too.
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:she usually fixed most of the, the meals.
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:Her schedule was more his, his was so
under like, uh, irregular, but when
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:he did cook, you know, I mean, he,
he had his things he would make too,
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:and he really loved to make chili.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: yeah.
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:My dad did too.
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:That's a coincidence.
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:But he would put like
14 kinds of meat in it.
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:He'd have like sausages and,
every, he'd put everything in it.
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:Okay.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I
actually recently started, I
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:don't, I'm not gonna say recently,
because I'm, I'm in my forties.
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:This was probably about 15
years, maybe 20 years ago now.
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:But I think I reached a certain
age where I started to want
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:to embellish my dad's recipe.
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:Um, and so I started putting in like,
uh, equal parts, like either, Italian
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:sausage or andouille sometimes,
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: and, I
started making the, the, It's
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:not stock, but the liquidy part
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: My dad
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: with,
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: black coffee.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I
used, Guinness, like dark beer.
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:It's just got that, all that
yeast and, and flavor like the
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:barley and wheat and stuff in it.
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:And, V eight juice.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
Sounds interesting.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
particular about sausage.
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:I can't eat most of it.
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:I'm just
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh, really?
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: about it.
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:Yeah.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Is it texture?
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: and yeah.
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:It's, it's real, it's a no for me dog.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Uh, we
grew up eating bologna a lot and now
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:I don't care for bologna that much.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: me neither.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: And
it's, it is also like, I'm, I
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:just don't care for that texture.
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:It's, it's a flat hotdog.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:I don't eat either of 'em, so.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh yeah.
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:We ate a lot of ine sausages.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:We ate a lot of, there was a restaurant
that delivered called Jim Dandy, and
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:they had what the, a little special
called a Big Mo and a Coke, and
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:they were for a dollar, you got a, a
cheeseburger and a a, coke for a dollar,
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:and they would deliver and we would
order like 20 of 'em and we would chow
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: do you remember
when McDonald's did the 29 cent hamburger?
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:Wednesdays?
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yep.
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:I sure do.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I
worked at McDonald's when they
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:started those, and it was bonkers.
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:People were coming through buying 60
to a hundred hamburgers at a time.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: That's crazy.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
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:Uh, and they, I come to find out
like what they were doing was
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:freezing them and thawing 'em out
and eating them throughout the week.
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:Or taking 'em to school in their, the kids
would take 'em to school for their lunch.
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:But yeah, that very first day I was
working in the, at the McDonald's
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:in Williamsburg, they made us
make hundreds of hamburgers.
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:Like we, we had extra people on
shift just to churn out hamburgers
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:and I, it, it was surreal.
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:They were mountains of
hamburgers everywhere.
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:it, it's, I don't know, I don't think
I'll ever see anything like that again.
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:Actually, no, that's not true because
one time when I was, so, this time
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:I was like homeless as an adult.
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:I dropped outta college and, didn't
want to admit that I had done it.
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:So I.
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:got in my metro and drove
out to Western Kentucky.
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:Had a high school friend that
lived out there and was, I was
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:sleeping on her couch for a while.
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:But it was one of those, It wasn't
really a dorm, but it was like
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:leased through the university
that she attended type of thing.
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:And so her roommates told on me,
and as they should, you know, like
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:I wasn't paying money to be there,
you know, I shouldn't have been
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:sleeping on their couch, but I
didn't have anywhere else to sleep.
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:So I was sleeping in my car for a while.
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:This is how I got into
working at Bowling Alleys.
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:There's a bowling alley in,
Western Kentucky and Bowling Green
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:called Crescent Bowling Alley.
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:And a lot of semi-trucks would
leave, would park there overnight.
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:The long haul truckers would park there.
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:So I would just stick
my car in between 'em.
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:And I lived in that parking lot for.
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:A couple weeks and I would go in, in
the morning, take my toothbrush in there
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:and like wash and stuff when they open.
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:'cause that they opened at like
9:00 AM And so to like, kind of
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:as a ruse to be, to go in there.
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:I would ask the owner at the time,
the general manager and owner was
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:this gigantic dude named Teddy.
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:And he was always there and
I would say, Hey, you hiring?
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:And then go on to the bathroom
and like clean up and stuff.
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:And one day I walked in and he had
paperwork sitting out and he was like,
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:fill this out, can you start today?
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:I wasn't even really trying
to find a job at the time.
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:I was 19 years old, I wasn't
putting it together that I
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:was not in a good situation.
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:I was still like, this is fine.
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:I had a bunch of, dried, box food,
from Save-A-Lot, like the mac
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:and cheese things or whatever.
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:water is always boiling, so if you
just put that stuff in water, I'd
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:sit it in the dash of the car and
it would be soft after 20 minutes.
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:Just takes longer.
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:So I was, I thought I was just
kind of having a little adventure.
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:but he put me on.
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:The snack bar.
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:I could make tips that way,
he was like, you can get some
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:tips in your pocket this way.
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:people would do birthday parties
At bowling alleys, you know
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:this like everywhere that, that
they had something like that.
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:Yeah.
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:Well, somebody booked one with us.
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:It was huge.
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:We made hundreds of hot dogs and
hamburgers and they just never showed up.
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:We don't know if it was
like a prank or what.
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:we were stuck at this bowling
alley at, at closing time with
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:mountains of hamburgers and hot dogs.
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:And me and this other guy who was the
mechanic that night, we just bought them
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:all from the bowling alley for like 50
bucks a piece put them in his freezer and
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:that, we ate that for like six months.
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:and I got scurvy.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: That's
not something you hear in:
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:Very often
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
That is a redneck
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:I didn't even believe the doctor when,
because I was starting to get like weirdly
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:sick and lost a shit load of weight.
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:And my, you know, teeth were like hurting
and my gums were like receding and stuff,
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:and I had sores in my mouth and I went to
the doctor and they're like, you have not
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:a stitch of vitamin C in your whole body.
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:When's the last time you ate a fruit?
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
you are like:
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: last night.
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:But I didn't catch your name.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Ha ha ha.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Ha.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: That's funny.
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:I just, McDonald's is not good.
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:Cold.
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:I can't imagine reheated.
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:It would be much better,
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: but I
do have a thing for, I love cold
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:leftovers now though, I just have a
thing for cold french fries or any
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:kind of fried potato outta the fridge.
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:I won't heat it up.
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:I just love to eat 'em cold.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: huh?
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:' dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
cause that was safe food.
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:If you are, if you're scavenging
food, if it's been in a refrigerator,
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:it's safer than, you know, I've
eaten pizza outta trash cans too.
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:you're really taking a gamble on that.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: right.
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:Come here, Wenda.
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:On.
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:Hello.
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:She's been in a hyper mood
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
She got the Zoomies
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Uh, what passes
for Zoomies for a 14-year-old pug mix?
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:She doesn't move a whole lot,
but she's been energetic.
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:She's barked a lot today.
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:She scares you to death because she
doesn't have much hearing left, and you
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:come in the door and she'll be asleep on
the couch and she won't move a muscle.
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:And it's like she's laying there and we're
just like, I have to go over and like,
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:shake her to make sure she's still alive.
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:My face is so shiny.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
It's kind of purple too, like
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: on,
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:on my back.
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:It's, there are purple splotches.
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:I got a blister on this shoulder over
here today, and it's like the size of a
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:dime and puffed up, like a marshmallow.
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:It's disgusting.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
That's incredible, dude.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: wife has
to help me put my bra on because of
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:the ones like I just keep blistering.
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:to help me dry off out of the shower
today, so I didn't burst 'em all open.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
you gotta wipe it.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: who's
willing to do gross things.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
She works at a nursing home.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: You're ready?
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:down for whatever.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
Well, she loves you
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: and she did
that to you because I know, I know.
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:It wasn't you that was like, let's
go out and hang out in the sun.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
Well, no, 'cause I wanted to go
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:swimming and we were gonna go to
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh, okay.
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:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: 'cause
it was a little bit colder.
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:I hadn't been swimming in a
couple of years and I just had
364
:the urge to be submerged in water.
365
:I just wanted to float.
366
:I wanted to take the pressure
off my body for a little bit.
367
:it's been in the seventies or the, the
high sixties for like three weeks now.
368
:And it was like almost
too cold to go swimming.
369
:But the water was so warm.
370
:Oh.
371
:It was like bath water.
372
:It was fantastic.
373
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
it was 45 here today.
374
:Um, and windy, yeah.
375
:It's too early for this shit.
376
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: You
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:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: keep,
378
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: here.
379
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
I think it got up to 50.
380
:Not long ago, I was wearing like
a flannel and a jacket over it and
381
:a, beanie when I went on my walk.
382
:And I just, I, I think the older I get,
my joints, they don't like the cold,
383
:so what am I,
384
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: that, my friend.
385
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I know
I'm gonna get, I'm determined
386
:to get a winter sport though.
387
:some sort of winter activity, one I want
to learn about hockey, don't necessarily
388
:wanna play it, but I want to understand
it and, and, you know, maybe get a team
389
:to follow or something, you know, like
I haven't followed a sport in forever.
390
:That would be fun.
391
:And I, I think that that's the one
that they, that folks follow here.
392
:' I mean, they have a, pro football
team, but I don't see people going
393
:around like y are vikings, you know,
they're not that, it's not that
394
:football e here and maybe the Vikings
just aren't that good of a team.
395
:but it's, I think it may be cultural,
because the college ball's not
396
:that big of a deal here either.
397
:The gophers are the, the Minnesota team,
and I think they're Big 10 is there, if
398
:I'm wrong, there'll be somebody in the
comments telling me and that's cool.
399
:but that's my only reference to sports is.
400
:college and professional football,
and I just need to branch out.
401
:I need to see what they're into here.
402
:So I'm gonna, I've decided
I'm gonna learn about hockey,
403
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: You are
404
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I
don't, yeah, I'm gonna assimilate.
405
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
I sound so rattly.
406
:I know it was really
tough to lecture today.
407
:I had two classes and we were talking
about the second wave of feminism
408
:and it was just like, I don't care.
409
:I don't feel good.
410
:I don't wanna be here.
411
:I'm sunburned and blistered
and my, I'm coughing and, you
412
:know, blowing my nose every five
minutes and I just wanna go home.
413
:But we got through it and we had a pretty
good discussion today, so that was good.
414
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: You
wanna hear something weird?
415
:the class that I don't like teaching
anymore, uh, I phrased that weirdly.
416
:I don't enjoy teaching, feminism
or WGS after transitioning.
417
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Why?
418
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I don't
know, I think I just don't like
419
:talking about gender that much.
420
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Well, true
that, that's a lot of talk about gender.
421
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: yeah,
I think I'm maybe just tired
422
:of the whole concept of gender.
423
:You know, and I say this a lot
when ever people are like, trans
424
:people only think about gender.
425
:It's like, no, no, no, no.
426
:We did this so we could stop
thinking about gender all the time.
427
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Right.
428
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Right?
429
:it's you that won't shut up about
what is I've got in my pants.
430
:You know?
431
:This is me clocking out of
thinking about gender all the time.
432
:so I realized I taught a course, at EKU
Uh, I hadn't taught it for a long time
433
:and I was like, I really don't enjoy this.
434
:I don't enjoy this.
435
:I like the history part.
436
:Love talking about the history of
social movements and like the, the work
437
:that people did, but the discussion in
the classroom always centered around.
438
:Gender so much, it was a combination
of not, no longer feeling like I held
439
:the identities of somebody that should
be talking about it, and also just not
440
:wanting to talk about gender anymore.
441
:I don't know, I decided I'm
not gonna teach intro anymore.
442
:The next WGS courses I taught were
like film, I taught like, uh, queer
443
:cinema or something like that.
444
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: the
ethnic studies is the one that's
445
:intimidating for me, because
that's not my area of expertise.
446
:So I feel like I'm just like figuring
it out as I go, even though I've taught
447
:it twice now, but I feel like it's
448
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
449
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
from the first one, so.
450
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I think
it's important for people who hold
451
:dominant identities to get comfortable.
452
:leading discussions around equity.
453
:but there's such a danger for someone
with a dominant racial identity to be
454
:leading discussions around racial justice.
455
:that they almost certainly mean well,
but the moments where we mean the best
456
:are sometimes where we do the most
damage because we haven't, finished
457
:the work yet you ever get the feeling
somebody's giving you advice and
458
:they're really just talking to themself,
459
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
460
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: like
you're just giving yourself advice
461
:right now and I'm here for it.
462
:sometimes when a person is
early in social justice work.
463
:And they begin to maybe wade
into deeper waters than they're
464
:qualified for or ready for.
465
:It kind of comes a little out.
466
:Like they're only talking to
their own experience and that's
467
:not what anybody's interested in.
468
:know, the experience of the person
with the dominant identities,
469
:that should never be the center
that you're coming at this from.
470
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Right.
471
:I make it a point that I'm a
white woman talking about that.
472
:That's one of the reasons I bring in
so many videos because I can never tell
473
:you what it's like to be a black man,
but I can find a black man who's talking
474
:about it and we can learn from him.
475
:and that's one of the reasons I assign
so many readings and stuff, because
476
:I don't wanna be some white lady
standing in the front of the room
477
:saying, this is race and ethnicity,
478
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Mm-hmm.
479
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I only
know the work that I have done.
480
:Right.
481
:I know what my black friends have told
me, my black peers and colleagues,
482
:what I've read, what I've written.
483
:the research that I've done and I'm
gonna do the best job that I can
484
:here, but it's not gonna be perfect.
485
:but we can definitely
learn from each other.
486
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I think
that's why that like critical whiteness
487
:framework is so potent because I
absolutely do think that people with
488
:dominant identities need to be doing,
um, even, leading in some, arenas, But.
489
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: The people
who hold up the systems of racism,
490
:of homophobia, the dominant culture,
the, the basically the white men.
491
:if, if racism could have been
solved by black people, it
492
:would've been solved by now.
493
:And if sexism could be solved by
women, it would've been solved by now.
494
:We need the people who are in power,
who have the cultural hegemony.
495
:we need those people to do the work
to do the talking because white
496
:people listen to other white people,
497
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Mm-hmm.
498
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
So it's, it's imperative.
499
:We'll never make progress unless more
white people and more men get involved.
500
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Mm-hmm.
501
:that was where I wound up when I was
thinking about not wanting to teach WGS
502
:anymore, because I was like, yeah, I'm
sure that there's some, like discomfort
503
:and, and maybe trauma related things
for me, not wanting to talk about that.
504
:But a cis white passing man is precisely
who you need talking about gender equity
505
:especially in a classroom in Kentucky,
506
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Right,
507
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: who's
gonna be listened to in that context?
508
:so I, have like, gone back and
forth about, like, chickening
509
:out, I guess, in a way of that,
or privileging my own comfort.
510
:it's kind of a moot point now because
I'm not really in the classroom,
511
:but I'm not gonna like, clock out
of having the discussions ' cause I
512
:hold a ton of power and privilege.
513
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: right.
514
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: It's
mostly pretty privilege though.
515
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I got into a
debate about that the other day, about
516
:whether the, the privilege is real.
517
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh god.
518
:People still out here doing that.
519
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
520
:The, the, the way that I set up the class,
because we're in week two right now,
521
:and today this on Thursday, we talked
about privilege and we talked about what
522
:privilege is not just white privilege,
but we talked about male privilege, able
523
:bodied privilege, religious privilege,
wealth, privilege, age, privilege.
524
:and we talked about how it's the
things that didn't systemically
525
:make your life harder.
526
:You know, I was born a woman,
has that made my life harder?
527
:Fuck yes.
528
:I was born white.
529
:Has that made my life harder?
530
:Absolutely not.
531
:I was born gay.
532
:Has that made my life harder?
533
:Absolutely.
534
:Maybe my mom would've come to my
wedding if I was straight, you know?
535
:that with privilege.
536
:You have to, it's about wielding it.
537
:Right.
538
:And understand.
539
:Like, like Dr.
540
:Phil taught us, one of the only useful
things he ever taught us is that if
541
:you, if you have to acknowledge a
problem, if you don't acknowledge
542
:the problem, you can't fix it.
543
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Mm-hmm.
544
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: And
so that's why you need people
545
:to learn about privilege and to
understand that they have it.
546
:Because then if you're a white man
and you're given all this privilege
547
:and you get a raise at work or you
get a promotion, use that power to
548
:bring up people of color behind you
or women or other people who , are
549
:minorities in your workplace.
550
:do that work.
551
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Because so much
of this is just on cruise control now.
552
:the isms, the inequity of,
the American social structure.
553
:they're features not bugs.
554
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Oh,
555
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: the
556
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: does
exactly what it's designed to do.
557
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Exactly,
it was built this way, purpose built
558
:when a person benefits from these features
that are not bugs, they are not the evil
559
:for having this benefit, but they are in
a position to do some good by pausing and
560
:drawing attention to the, the feature.
561
:It's hard though,
562
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
563
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: just
to keep track of it all, I guess,
564
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
565
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
because we are saturated in.
566
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
When you say racism is in
567
:everything, it is in everything.
568
:Everything.
569
:And once you see it, you can't unsee it.
570
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
571
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I'm so
passionate about doing the job that I do.
572
:I feel like, like I said, white
kids listen to white people.
573
:cause I have one class that
is completely white, taking an
574
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Hmm.
575
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: class.
576
:they all
577
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Cool.
578
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: anyway to me.
579
:there's, there's no people of color
that are obviously people of color
580
:in the room, or identified as such.
581
:but I told them you probably had
some reservations about taking such
582
:a class because you don't have an
ethnicity, you don't have a race
583
:according to American culture.
584
:Right.
585
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Hmm.
586
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I got some
smiles from that because clearly they did.
587
:I think it's important to be
having these conversations.
588
:I'm glad that BG still requires that
they take a class in cultural studies,
589
:because you know, it's important
information that we're teaching.
590
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: who knows
how much time that curriculum has left.
591
:Although not to be weird, but, and, and I
don't wish anyone dies necessarily, but a
592
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: There are
593
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: a certain,
594
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: look
fondly upon their obituaries.
595
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: there's
a certain wannabe dictator that
596
:could be on his last legs right now.
597
:and things are only gonna get
weirder after that, in, in
598
:whatever way it transpires.
599
:There'll be a new challenge or
this will look a different way.
600
:just saying nim nimble and, trying
to keep a sense of our humor, our,
601
:a sense of, where we are as people
and why we really bother fighting.
602
:This sometimes is only
gonna pay dividends.
603
:And just investing in, young people or our
peers or our elders, whoever, in whatever
604
:ways we can, that work is never wasted.
605
:Gosh, we're just so passionate today.
606
:Maybe we should spin this wheel,
what have you, it'll give us
607
:something stupid to talk about.
608
:It landed on hijinks.
609
:Have we had that one?
610
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
I don't think so.
611
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Okay.
612
:Hijinks.
613
:What, what kind of word is hijinks?
614
:First of all?
615
:Like, I think I know what, what it, means,
but where does this, what is the en eth?
616
:I almost said, uh,
entomology of that word,
617
:Uh, etymology is, is,
yeah, entomology is bugs.
618
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Right.
619
:I, I, there's a, there's
a joke in there somewhere.
620
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Hijinx refers
to boisterous, noisy and mischievous
621
:merrymaking or carefree antics,
often playful and high spirited.
622
:So you, I mean, I know that,
you were more on the, the, only
623
:child track in, in some ways.
624
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I
read, that's why I read so much.
625
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: but like
did you get into shit either though?
626
:Like
627
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
when my brother made me.
628
:Really?
629
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
630
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
631
:I liked being inside with my books, and I
632
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
633
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: crazy, but
that's, that's just what I liked.
634
:I would come home from school and play
school on the porch with my friends.
635
:There were two little girls.
636
:we lived in, in a house from the time
I was in around first grade until, we
637
:moved when I was in the sixth grade.
638
:So those are pretty formative years.
639
:And there were two girls that lived
on my block that we were pretty,
640
:that I was pretty close with.
641
:they would come over and we'd
play school right after school.
642
:Like that's the kind of nerd that I was.
643
:I didn't like climbing trees.
644
:I didn't like getting dirty
besides playing softball.
645
:if, and if it was softball
season, I was all about softball.
646
:but otherwise I was pretty much about
homework and doing all that kind of stuff.
647
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: We were, I
was pretty much always around other
648
:kids, either David and Vanessa or
our cousins who were all our age.
649
:And we hung out all a lot,
especially when school was out.
650
:And we would play these huge,
sprawling, sometimes complicated games,
651
:Like there was the normal ones, you
know, like red light, green light.
652
:We would play, Simon says we
would play statue, but then
653
:we would also invent things.
654
:And so one, I remember
there was a game we played.
655
:this whole summer.
656
:Every time we got together we would do
this thing where we would, I had this
657
:one cousin who was always very skinny.
658
:He was always really small.
659
:And we would make a game where he would,
be a ventriloquist dummy and sit on
660
:my, our older cousin's knee and they
would put together a ventriloquism
661
:routine for the younger kids.
662
:you know, you're really having a
great time when you're cackling.
663
:A whole mess of kids is cackling
so, so big that the adults come
664
:to see if you've like gotten into
something you ought not to be into.
665
:so we played that all summer long
and I can still like, remember.
666
:I just had this feeling at the,
uh, or an awareness that this
667
:is not ever gonna happen again.
668
:This is one of those things that
is like lightning in a bottle.
669
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Right.
670
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
It's never as funny.
671
:The second time you can't
recreate that magic.
672
:You grow up a little bit
every time in between.
673
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Well, my
cousins, I have 41 first cousins.
674
:I have, I had 19 aunts and uncles before
you even started counting their spouses.
675
:my parents, my three parents had
19 siblings between them, and of
676
:the 41 cousins I'm next to last.
677
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
678
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: So all my
cousins are getting in their sixties
679
:and their late fifties, and I'm
still sitting back here at 47, and
680
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah,
681
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I was,
they carry, I have pictures of me
682
:at their high school graduations and
they're carrying me around on their
683
:hip they were cut my hair and dressed
me up and I was their little doll.
684
:that's what made me so queer.
685
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
there, there's a,
686
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: roots.
687
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: yeah.
688
:We played baseball a lot.
689
:And, I got, my first like really
spectacular black eye was from
690
:playing baseball with my cousins.
691
:I get hit right in the eye
socket with a, a line drive.
692
:Yeah.
693
:When I was, I was maybe probably seven.
694
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: that happened
695
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Um,
696
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
he broke his orbital bone.
697
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: we didn't, I
didn't go to the doctor or anything, Man.
698
:I'm just now thinking back like
how many times I should have gone
699
:to the doctor for stuff when I was
a kid and we just didn't do it.
700
:Like that was clearly a concussion.
701
:I was unconscious for a long time.
702
:Hijinks means something different
when you start to get older.
703
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: yeah.
704
:'cause I'm thinking about times
with my best friends and things, but
705
:maybe we shouldn't talk about on air.
706
:Um, like I've not much
of a drinker at all.
707
:I never really have been.
708
:but one time my best friend, when we
lived in Huntington, she still lives in
709
:Huntington, but I lived in Huntington,
West Virginia, and it was before
710
:I had ever met Shanna or anything.
711
:I lived in a h this big
old house by myself.
712
:I had a girlfriend, but we broke up
and she moved out Tracy came and got
713
:me and we were gonna go drinking and
we went to Applebee's of all places
714
:and we sat at the bar at Applebee's
and she was buying and she got me
715
:shit face drunk and she was driving
and she should not have been driving.
716
:And there's an S-curve in Huntington, that
you had to go through to get to my house.
717
:Uh, it's like a, a snaking little
s-curve that you have to slow down for.
718
:And while we were in the Applebee's,
it started snowing pretty heavily.
719
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh no.
720
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Huntington
is famous for not getting the
721
:road salted quickly enough.
722
:And we went through that, that S-curve
and the car spun 360 all the way around.
723
:And I was like glued to
the sides with my arms out.
724
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh, no.
725
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: yeah.
726
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: There was,
uh, so many, we had a bunch of field
727
:parties when I was in high school.
728
:Like that was we, or, and
729
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
730
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
also in college house parties.
731
:And field parties were the thing when
I was in college, everybody, you could
732
:get a a keg of Natty Light for $120.
733
:so we would all just put in five
bucks and get somebody's truck, put
734
:it in the back of that, and then
take it out to the middle of a field.
735
:And that's where we would have
that, our party that night.
736
:that's the kind of thing, like I,
I do think fondly back on those, on
737
:those nights, but I also, you couldn't
pay me to do that shit right now.
738
:I'm not going to the field for a kegger.
739
:Have you ever done a keg stand,
740
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Uh, no,
but I have done the ones, the funnel
741
:where you did the, what is that
742
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: bong beer bong.
743
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
744
:How did I
745
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I, I don't know.
746
:I have done that one a few times
successfully, but really didn't enjoy it.
747
:but there is something, well,
really, they're both kinda like this.
748
:They're so, it's gonna sound crazy.
749
:They're wholesome, because
it's a village, right?
750
:Like you need, somebody has to
hold your legs up in the air.
751
:Somebody else has to operate
the little plunger on the valve.
752
:And, you know, people are holding
their hair up or something and
753
:everybody's standing around cheering.
754
:It's, it's such a stupid, stupid thing to
do, but You got the back scratcher out.
755
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah,
756
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Does
it have a hand on the end?
757
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: no, I've
had this particular back scratcher.
758
:I bought one, um, when I, for year I
met Shanna, I went to Pier one Christmas
759
:shopping and they had these on the,
on the desk for a dollar a piece.
760
:So I bought, uh, Tracy,
my best friend one.
761
:I bought my mom one, I bought
me one and I bought one.
762
:so this was 20 years ago.
763
:And Tracy just broke hers like a year ago.
764
:And my mom's was still at
her house when she died,
765
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: just
reminded me that you bought me one
766
:of those when I got my top surgery.
767
:Do you remember that?
768
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
769
:I had a friend that had also gone
through top surgery and I asked
770
:him what he wished he had had and
he said, God, a back scratcher.
771
:So that's what I got
772
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: It was, yeah.
773
:It was incredible.
774
:And I, as soon as I saw it,
I was like, that's genius.
775
:That is somebody who's really
thinking about what the next,
776
:at least week is gonna be like.
777
:And like, and man, that
recovering from top surgery was.
778
:I think about this often, it is one of
the most metal things I've ever done,
779
:and I have, detoxed myself, you know,
from substances and and Sabrina was
780
:with me for five days of it, but I was
so afraid of getting addicted to the
781
:pain medicine that I stopped taking it.
782
:I got what is called double incision.
783
:So it's cut.
784
:They cut me from armpit to armpit all
the way straight across, and I'm on, no
785
:ma, I'm on no pain meds on day three.
786
:And, and I had to fly.
787
:I was in North Carolina, so I had to
fly by myself, go through TSA like that.
788
:Uh, and it was just the most godawful
flight and you can't wipe your own ass.
789
:It was, hardcore people think
that, uh, people are out here
790
:transitioning just for the hell of it.
791
:They are not.
792
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah, so just
so they can go in the women's bathroom.
793
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Mm-hmm.
794
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: that's one thing
that I've always gotten compliments for.
795
:I'm a pretty good gift giver.
796
:I'm a thoughtful fifth
797
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
Yeah, absolutely.
798
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
one of my love languages.
799
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
I wish I was better at it.
800
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Do
you know your love language?
801
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
Uh, I don't know.
802
:What are they?
803
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
I, I don't know them all.
804
:I know that mine is
805
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Hang
on, let, let me look it up.
806
:Is there a finite number of them or,
807
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
Yeah, I think so.
808
:There's like seven or something like that.
809
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
five Love languages.
810
:Okay, I clicked on a sponsored link.
811
:God, what's gonna happen to me now?
812
:This is called simple body something
or other words of affirmation.
813
:acts of service.
814
:Receiving gifts.
815
:Receiving gifts is a love language.
816
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: That's weird.
817
:I think giving gifts,
818
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Maybe
that's what this is supposed to say.
819
:I think I'm on somebody's
shitty blog here.
820
:Hang on,
821
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
my face is so shiny.
822
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh this?
823
:No.
824
:Oh, Candace Cameron and wants
me to take a love language quiz.
825
:Oh my God.
826
:Just tell me what they are.
827
:What is happening.
828
:I can't just Google something
because I want to know it . You
829
:want to sell me something?
830
:No.
831
:Receiving gifts is a love
language to this person.
832
:Nothing makes them feel as special
as receiving a well thought out gift.
833
:So this is someone feels someone, okay.
834
:I don't understand this.
835
:If someone's love language is receiving
gifts, then you should give them a gift.
836
:Okay, that makes sense.
837
:Quality time, physical touch.
838
:I am going to guess that
mine is quality time,
839
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah,
840
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
but I don't know.
841
:I don't,
842
:yeah.
843
:I like being around people, Yeah.
844
:It's probably quality time.
845
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: mine is
definitely acts of service ' cause
846
:it's like you show me that you
love me more than just tell me.
847
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Mm-hmm.
848
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: like
she had a helping me dry off this
849
:morning after outta the shower.
850
:That's an
851
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
852
:Help people with an errand if they're
busy, if they have something to do.
853
:I am like the, the best thing
I have to give is my time.
854
:That's probably, that's not actually
a really high recommendation.
855
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I
enjoy spending time with you, so
856
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Aw.
857
:It does seem like that's the, um,
like what I want outta somebody that
858
:I really love is just them, you know,
I want to be, to have some access
859
:to, my favorite part, I guess, is
having access to them and being, being
860
:around them and getting to hear about
the things they're interested in.
861
:So I guess that makes sense.
862
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: yeah.
863
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I
gotta, I gotta come up with
864
:some stuff to get for Christmas.
865
:I've made a sudden commitment to go
home to Kentucky for Thanksgiving.
866
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Oh, nice.
867
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Because
that's when my family has Christmas.
868
:They don't do Thanksgiving.
869
:Yeah, they just have Christmas instead.
870
:So we've lived apart for so long
Vanessa and her, kids, they come to
871
:our parents' house for Thanksgiving
and then her husband, instead of
872
:trying to do all the holidays twice,
they just split 'em up that way.
873
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I've
lost several of my cousins.
874
:Four of my first cousins I never met.
875
:They died in a fire before I was born,
and I was, uh, named after one of them.
876
:So there were two Rebeccas
in, in our family.
877
:but the, the rest of them, so that
leaves the 37 left, they're all starting
878
:to get older and starting to retire.
879
:A lot of 'em are Trumpers, unfortunately.
880
:and they don't get what I do whatsoever.
881
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: mm-hmm.
882
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: don't like
the, the news that I post or the links
883
:that I post or, because that's how we
all stay in touch is Facebook these days,
884
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah,
885
:I don't, well, and my Facebook's all fake.
886
:It's mostly podcasting people on
there and some, some coworkers.
887
:But, um,
888
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: one for, you
know, however long Facebook's been,
889
:since 2007 or whatever it's been.
890
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I think
the other, the last one I had
891
:is still out there somewhere.
892
:I don't know how long before
they deactivate themselves, but
893
:it also wasn't my real name.
894
:I remember when, so David had a Facebook,
and you can memorialize a Facebook,
895
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
Yeah, we did that to my mom's.
896
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: but you, you
have to have certain details of it.
897
:and we didn't know them, so I kept
getting, notifications from his Facebook,
898
:at first I just, uh, unfriended him and
then it kept suggesting him as a friend.
899
:And then, people would tag me, the, the
hero worship after he died, people would
900
:tag me in his Facebook in it, and we just
couldn't get Facebook to shut it down.
901
:And so I just, got rid
of that whole account.
902
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Wow.
903
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: But I think it.
904
:an account will of its own
accord maybe expire if you
905
:leave it dormant long enough.
906
:I don't know that for sure.
907
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: I, I made
it a point because I didn't want
908
:my dad's girlfriend to get in mom's
'cause he was still using her account.
909
:I really did it to piss off my dad because
it blocked his access to his games and he
910
:had millions of tokens saved up and that
911
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh,
912
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: thing.
913
:And I was so mad at him
for getting a girlfriend.
914
:I shut it off.
915
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: have you
ever changed somebody's password on
916
:like a shared account or something?
917
:Uh, I can't remember if I have either.
918
:You know what I realized the other
day is like if we ever get famous,
919
:there's gonna be people who knew
me back when I was a total scumbag
920
:coming out trying to cancel us.
921
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
922
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
have you listened to the show?
923
:Like everybody knows what
a dirt bag I used to be.
924
:Good luck coming up with something that
I haven't already said about myself.
925
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Right.
926
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: man, I'm so
happy to not be that generation that's
927
:grown up with face or with social media,
928
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Oh man.
929
:Yeah,
930
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: the cringe
that these people are having to, can
931
:you imagine being, you know, 30 looking
back on a social media account you had
932
:when you were 10 and going like, golly,
who was letting me say that stuff?
933
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah, I
had a, 'cause I will sometimes Google
934
:students and I tell them that if
you send me an email that's stupid
935
:enough, I'll probably email you.
936
:or if you piss me off or whatever,
I'm gonna see what's out there.
937
:And I found a kid who, on his Twitter,
it looked like it hadn't been updated
938
:in like five years or something,
but he had used the n word in
939
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh God.
940
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: And
I wa I, I was like, maybe you
941
:should do something about that.
942
:And he was like, oh my God, oh
my God, I didn't know this was
943
:out there, blah, blah, blah.
944
:And I was like,
945
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Well, and
dude being on like gay social apps or
946
:dating apps or something like that.
947
:Especially, you know, I had a, uh, have
had a grinder or grinder accounts off and
948
:on and just, I've made friends that way.
949
:I've made friends on OkCupid as well.
950
:like, you could set your filters and stuff
so that you can't see people in a certain
951
:age range and they can't see you either.
952
:But I discovered when I started going to
work specifically in lgbtqia twos plus
953
:work, they will find a way around it.
954
:They'll create burner accounts or
they'll lie about their age because
955
:it's on the honor system and.
956
:There was one that contacted me.
957
:It took me a minute to figure out
who it was, but they had their
958
:social links on their Grindr profile.
959
:Can you imagine being just
that out here I was so naive,
960
:I didn't realize what it was.
961
:And people, it was a porn Twitter account.
962
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Oh God.
963
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
964
:And so I was like, okay,
that's enough grinder.
965
:That's enough Grindr for me.
966
:Never again.
967
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
a dating app in my life.
968
:my
969
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Yeah.
970
:Well,
971
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
got together before.
972
:That was a thing.
973
:I don't
974
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: some of
975
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
swipe left or swipe right.
976
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: I've
made friends, on Grindr who, 'cause
977
:some people are actually on there
to make friends because it's the
978
:only place you can actually know
you're gonna talk to gay people.
979
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Right.
980
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: so yeah,
it's a hookup app, but some of them
981
:who put friends only in their profile
actually mean that, and it's just
982
:an a because there's not gay bars.
983
:And even if there were, I probably
wouldn't go to one if it's here in town
984
:because my students would be at it.
985
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah.
986
:yeah, we met at a friend's party.
987
:She came over to hang out and I
happened to be there and we sat in
988
:the floor and laughed for hours and
basically I haven't separated since.
989
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Didn't
you, you, you turned or didn't you?
990
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319: Yeah, she was
the token straight girl in a circle of
991
:gay people, and now most of them have
gone straight and she's the token gay one.
992
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320: Oh, hell yeah.
993
:beck_4_09-05-2025_190319:
yeah, we surprised 'em all.
994
:None of 'em thought we
would make it this far.
995
:And here we are better than ever.
996
:dash_4_09-05-2025_180320:
I dated somebody.
997
:I had started dating this girl
for one month when David died.
998
:she hadn't even met my family yet.
999
:She met them because he died.
:
00:37:31,334 --> 00:37:34,985
that kind of, I think probably
like impacted what the re the rest
:
00:37:34,985 --> 00:37:36,335
of that relationship was like.
:
00:37:36,335 --> 00:37:37,648
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00:37:37,860 --> 00:37:39,510
-:a way it wasn't bad though.
:
00:37:39,510 --> 00:37:41,550
It was the, you know what
killed that relationship.
:
00:37:41,550 --> 00:37:42,570
Fucking grad school.
:
00:37:42,570 --> 00:37:42,860
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00:37:43,340 --> 00:37:46,940
Grad students are, listen listeners,
can you, which camera do I look in?
:
00:37:46,940 --> 00:37:47,750
Is this my camera here?
:
00:37:47,990 --> 00:37:49,430
Do not date a grad student.
:
00:37:51,860 --> 00:37:53,390
We are the absolute worst.
:
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:56,780
If your partner says they're gonna
go to grad school, say, all right,
:
00:37:56,780 --> 00:37:57,710
I'll see you when you're done.
:
00:37:58,495 --> 00:38:02,005
The just know it all snot knows
bullshit that we get into almost
:
00:38:02,005 --> 00:38:03,685
immediately when we go to grad school.
:
00:38:03,685 --> 00:38:05,815
I don't know what, I don't
know what gets into us, but I
:
00:38:05,815 --> 00:38:06,985
think it's imposter syndrome.
:
00:38:06,985 --> 00:38:07,973
-:Yeah, definitely.
:
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:09,770
-:remember that fear of everybody's
:
00:38:09,770 --> 00:38:11,000
else is smarter than me.
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00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:11,390
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00:38:11,655 --> 00:38:11,945
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00:38:12,020 --> 00:38:14,270
-:to be here and I'm, I shouldn't be.
:
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:14,779
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00:38:14,809 --> 00:38:16,219
-:definitely felt that a lot.
:
00:38:16,219 --> 00:38:19,429
I was, I was the first person in my
family to graduate from high school,
:
00:38:19,489 --> 00:38:24,079
and, and so to be there in, in a
master's program and then a PhD program,
:
00:38:24,079 --> 00:38:27,949
it was so far from anything that I
had ever even imagined for myself.
:
00:38:27,949 --> 00:38:28,549
it, it really
:
00:38:28,594 --> 00:38:28,864
-::
00:38:28,939 --> 00:38:29,779
-:a lot like imposter.
:
00:38:29,779 --> 00:38:31,039
Like I didn't belong there.
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00:38:31,039 --> 00:38:31,579
I showed up.
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00:38:31,579 --> 00:38:32,059
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-::
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-::
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-:borrowed from, my niece's boyfriend.
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He had moved out and left a few things
and he left my favorite flannel.
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I stole it right on out
from, from that pile.
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-::
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What is it about a good flannel?
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-::
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-:don't know, but it really does
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feel like I'm, untouchable.
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Nobody can get me.
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Now,
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-::
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I've collected quite a few over the
past couple of years, but I live in
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the fucking North Pole, you know,
:
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-:me what I wanted for Christmas and
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I said I wanted some new flannels.
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-::
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-:living that, dyke legacy, somebody
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called me a bull dyke once.
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And I had never heard that.
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, I think what hurt my feelings about it
though was because I'd never heard it
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before and I'm like, how dare you call
me something I've never even heard of,
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like a new slur at this point in my life.
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What is what They can do that, but
I, I don't know what the ballpark is.
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Watch me Google.
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This is Candace Cameron Berg gonna come
at me again over the next thing I Google.
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-::
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seems like the type.
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-:etymology of dyke and bull Oh, this
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is a Taylor in Francis article,
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it says Obscure origin, so
nobody knows where it came from.
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You remember how.
:
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There was a fad in the
early::
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Everyone going around saying,
I identify as such and such.
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I'm glad we don't do it anymore.
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'cause it's super problematic and
you know, just asking people to
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know a lot about themselves and
share that openly with people.
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So I would, the first, the only
time I've ever encountered it was
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there at BG and I think it was
just that moment in time at bg.
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And so I would always come out with
something unhinged to say I identify
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as, and I started saying, I identify
as a white trash dyke they hated it.
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They did not.
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I mean, Tobias thought it was
funny, but he was the only one.
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well, did you bring a noun of
Appalachian interest with you?
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-::
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I brought an interesting one today.
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It's a place.
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All right.
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right, y'all.
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It's time for another installment of
Nouns of Appalachian interest, where
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we celebrate the people, places,
and things that make Appalachia.
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Well.
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Appalachia, noun is a place, one
that's equal parts, fancy, historic,
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00:42:09,880 --> 00:42:11,590
and just a tiny bit suspicious.
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Let's talk about the Green Briar.
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Green Briar is a luxury resort in
white sulfur springs, West Virginia,
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and it's been around since:is at least three times older than
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00:42:20,226 --> 00:42:21,576
your favorite pair of tennis shoes.
:
00:42:21,576 --> 00:42:25,506
It's got white columns, manicured gardens,
and enough chandeliers to make Liberace
:
00:42:25,506 --> 00:42:27,216
look like he was decorating on a dare.
:
00:42:27,417 --> 00:42:30,777
the real kicker beneath the Southern
charm is a massive Cold War era
:
00:42:30,777 --> 00:42:36,147
secret 112,000 square foot underground
bunker built to hide the entire US
:
00:42:36,147 --> 00:42:38,637
Congress in case of nuclear disaster.
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00:42:38,637 --> 00:42:38,967
Yep.
:
00:42:38,967 --> 00:42:42,777
While guests were upstairs playing
croquette and sipping tea, the government
:
00:42:42,777 --> 00:42:46,917
was quietly, stockpiling cots, canned
food, and enough bottled water to
:
00:42:46,917 --> 00:42:48,987
float a bass boat for over 30 years.
:
00:42:48,987 --> 00:42:52,437
This bunker was one of America's
most clo, closely guarded secrets
:
00:42:52,437 --> 00:42:54,327
code name project, Greek Island.
:
00:42:54,327 --> 00:42:57,447
It had its own radio station,
a hospital and a power plant.
:
00:42:57,447 --> 00:43:00,267
The walls were three feet of
reinforced concrete designed
:
00:43:00,267 --> 00:43:01,897
to, withstand a nuclear blast.
:
00:43:01,927 --> 00:43:04,957
And yet it was hidden behind
a literal fake door that
:
00:43:04,957 --> 00:43:06,547
said, high voltage keep out.
:
00:43:06,547 --> 00:43:09,277
Because apparently in the Cold
War, the best security system was
:
00:43:09,277 --> 00:43:10,807
just making something look boring.
:
00:43:11,227 --> 00:43:13,357
whole thing stayed hush hush
until the nineties when the
:
00:43:13,357 --> 00:43:14,977
Washington Post spilled the beans.
:
00:43:14,977 --> 00:43:18,667
Now you can actually tour it, walk past
rows of dorm style bunk beds, and stand in
:
00:43:18,667 --> 00:43:22,267
the meeting room where in theory, Congress
would've been legislating in their pajamas
:
00:43:22,267 --> 00:43:23,857
while the world above was in chaos.
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00:43:23,857 --> 00:43:26,737
So yeah, the green Bit Briar isn't
just a pretty place to play golf.
:
00:43:26,737 --> 00:43:29,887
It's living proof that in Appalachia,
we don't just build resorts, we
:
00:43:29,887 --> 00:43:30,917
build them apo apocalypse ready.
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-::
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I didn't know that.
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00:43:33,637 --> 00:43:33,847
-::
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-::
00:43:34,775 --> 00:43:35,135
-::
00:43:35,270 --> 00:43:36,669
-:Greenbriar resort.
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Okay.
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00:43:37,389 --> 00:43:38,709
Oh, it's beautiful.
:
00:43:38,709 --> 00:43:39,129
-::
00:43:39,386 --> 00:43:43,706
And there's a, a total 112,000 square foot
bunker it built into the bottom of it.
:
00:43:43,736 --> 00:43:44,186
And
:
00:43:44,321 --> 00:43:45,221
-:you rent out the bunker?
:
00:43:45,379 --> 00:43:46,579
-:oh, I don't know about that.
:
00:43:46,579 --> 00:43:50,047
But if there were to be like, some
kind of national emergency, they
:
00:43:50,047 --> 00:43:51,307
were all supposed to go there.
:
00:43:51,307 --> 00:43:53,797
I believe the new one is
under the Denver airport.
:
00:43:53,797 --> 00:43:55,957
-:about to ask, is this current?
:
00:43:55,957 --> 00:43:56,197
-::
00:43:56,242 --> 00:43:56,872
-::
00:43:56,947 --> 00:43:58,297
-:think it's out of commission.
:
00:43:58,297 --> 00:43:58,987
-::
00:43:58,987 --> 00:43:59,737
Interesting.
:
00:43:59,797 --> 00:44:01,207
That is so cool.
:
00:44:01,207 --> 00:44:02,167
I love shit like that.
:
00:44:02,372 --> 00:44:05,822
We can, we can make a reservation there
and go ride around in a horse buggy.
:
00:44:05,822 --> 00:44:06,902
-:That would be awesome.
:
00:44:06,902 --> 00:44:07,872
I do wanna tour it one day.
:
00:44:08,179 --> 00:44:08,779
-::
00:44:08,779 --> 00:44:11,509
I don't know how to play golf, so
I'd just be a, a menace out there.
:
00:44:11,509 --> 00:44:13,279
But is this, you said
it's a golf course, right?
:
00:44:13,279 --> 00:44:14,779
-:Uh, a among other things,
:
00:44:14,779 --> 00:44:15,229
-::
00:44:15,289 --> 00:44:15,499
Yeah.
:
00:44:15,499 --> 00:44:16,399
It's got a lot going on.
:
00:44:16,399 --> 00:44:17,149
-::
00:44:17,149 --> 00:44:17,689
-::
00:44:17,689 --> 00:44:19,999
Well, we have been
talking our asses off, so
:
00:44:19,999 --> 00:44:20,719
-::
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:22,339
-:it's time to, to hang this one
:
00:44:22,339 --> 00:44:25,369
up and let you go back to bed
and put, are you putting aloe on?
:
00:44:25,369 --> 00:44:25,879
-::
00:44:25,879 --> 00:44:27,439
I have a with lidocaine.
:
00:44:27,439 --> 00:44:28,339
-::
00:44:28,339 --> 00:44:28,639
That's,
:
00:44:28,774 --> 00:44:29,374
-::
00:44:29,479 --> 00:44:30,229
-::
00:44:30,229 --> 00:44:30,623
-::
00:44:30,749 --> 00:44:31,039
-::
00:44:31,229 --> 00:44:33,359
-:like, I slept totally topless the
:
00:44:33,359 --> 00:44:36,869
other night because like, just the
seams on my shirt hurt, you know?
:
00:44:37,034 --> 00:44:38,534
-:like starfish in the bed?
:
00:44:38,939 --> 00:44:39,389
-::
00:44:39,749 --> 00:44:42,359
Well it was the hard, my,
like my skin is all tight.
:
00:44:42,359 --> 00:44:45,119
It doesn't, my arms don't wanna really
raise too far above my head because
:
00:44:45,119 --> 00:44:48,269
that's where all the, all my shoulders
is, where all the blisters are,
:
00:44:48,269 --> 00:44:49,769
-:are really describing the top
:
00:44:49,769 --> 00:44:51,329
surgery experience right now.
:
00:44:51,569 --> 00:44:53,999
'cause there's like a good six
months where you can't raise
:
00:44:53,999 --> 00:44:55,469
your arms above your head.
:
00:44:55,469 --> 00:44:56,099
-::
00:44:56,104 --> 00:44:57,874
I'm with you in solidarity, my friends.
:
00:44:57,874 --> 00:45:00,587
This absolutely sucks and I'm
glad it's only lasting a week.
:
00:45:00,587 --> 00:45:03,107
cause, but I thought it would
be like getting better by
:
00:45:03,107 --> 00:45:04,817
now, and in some ways it is.
:
00:45:04,817 --> 00:45:06,587
I was able to shower today finally,
:
00:45:06,587 --> 00:45:06,917
-::
00:45:07,127 --> 00:45:08,387
-:the blisters, ugh.
:
00:45:08,387 --> 00:45:10,937
-:you get, the longer those take to heal.
:
00:45:11,263 --> 00:45:13,393
-::
00:45:13,393 --> 00:45:16,695
-:make, uh, your birthday into a a gauntlet?
:
00:45:17,310 --> 00:45:17,970
-::
00:45:18,105 --> 00:45:18,410
-::
00:45:18,540 --> 00:45:20,640
-:but I, I had a really good day that
:
00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:24,750
day and we went for a tattoo, uh,
uh, appointment to get the, uh, to
:
00:45:24,750 --> 00:45:25,920
get it scheduled and everything.
:
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:27,600
My tattoo is September 10th, so
:
00:45:27,705 --> 00:45:28,155
-::
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:28,710
-::
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:29,280
Yeah.
:
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:30,240
I'm very excited
:
00:45:30,240 --> 00:45:33,000
-:thank you to everyone who listened.
:
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:36,930
Again, thanks for everybody who's been
hanging out with us on social media.
:
00:45:36,990 --> 00:45:37,860
That's been fun.
:
00:45:37,860 --> 00:45:40,230
-:still listening, hashtag in our comments.
:
00:45:40,260 --> 00:45:41,460
E Hall fucked the law
:
00:45:41,562 --> 00:45:44,617
-:that's our, our hashtag now is yee-haw.
:
00:45:44,617 --> 00:45:45,367
Fuck the law.
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Once, once she gets feeling
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:
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I'll put that in there.
:
00:46:09,108 --> 00:46:11,838
But there's a movie coming out
that I want us to do like a
:
00:46:11,838 --> 00:46:13,578
special review of for Halloween.
:
00:46:13,578 --> 00:46:15,498
it's Queen of the Dead.
:
00:46:15,498 --> 00:46:18,778
It's made by George Romero's daughter.
:
00:46:18,778 --> 00:46:20,758
It's a queer zombie movie.
:
00:46:20,818 --> 00:46:21,508
It's supposed to be.
:
00:46:21,508 --> 00:46:22,408
Camp is all Get out.
:
00:46:22,408 --> 00:46:23,878
Everybody's very excited about it.
:
00:46:23,878 --> 00:46:26,488
And it just reminds me
of, like Queer Wolf.
:
00:46:26,488 --> 00:46:30,054
And so it'd be fun for us to do some sort
of like double feature or something if
:
00:46:30,054 --> 00:46:33,414
we like got a, maybe if we got a Discord
or something or just had a watch party.
:
00:46:33,414 --> 00:46:34,494
Would y'all be interested in that?
:
00:46:34,494 --> 00:46:36,684
Let us know if, oh, also Spotify.
:
00:46:36,684 --> 00:46:39,084
I was digging around in
the demographic data.
:
00:46:39,084 --> 00:46:41,994
you can set your gender to
non-binary now on, on Spotify.
:
00:46:41,994 --> 00:46:47,111
And so, listeners, if, if you're a, a
Spotify and you identify as non-binary,
:
00:46:47,111 --> 00:46:48,761
go look at the most recent update.
:
00:46:48,761 --> 00:46:52,151
You can, designate your gender in there
and I would love to see that little
:
00:46:52,151 --> 00:46:55,481
non-binary bar fill up in our demographic
thing because I know you're out there.
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00:46:55,481 --> 00:46:57,731
we love y'all and say
hi to your mom and them.
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