Episode 31

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Published on:

29th Dec 2025

In Which Dash Forgets Every Word Ever

TLDR: We chose to review Jennifer's Body next week so watch that if you wanna follow along!

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Welcome aboard the Queenecks Struggle Bus we are your co-captains Dash and Beck. It's a miracle this episode is seeing the light of day on time what with Beck's trash internet and Dash apparently forgetting all manners of speech. But here it is because we love you.

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Beck:

Welcome to Queernecks, the podcast that puts the

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Yee Hall in y'all means hall.

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I'm your host, Beck,

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Dash: and I'm your host.

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Dash.

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Welcome to today's episode.

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Beck: making me some fudging a little bit.

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Dash: Oh God.

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Please be ca put, put her on

the phone right now, Shannon.

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One One piece at a time.

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Okay?

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Beck: Repeat that please.

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Dash: One,

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one piece at a time.

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You gotta watch this girl with that fudge.

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That shit's deadly.

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Beck: I sure will.

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sure will.

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She says she sure will.

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Dash: you darling.

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And if I was there, I would do my part.

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You

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know?

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Beck: I It's It's, not

Christmas without it

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though, you

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Dash: I know.

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Oh, I'm saying what I mean is I will help

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you eat it so that it's not all

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Beck: Oh, I

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see.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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delicious.

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It's, it used to be the recipe

on the back of the Hershey cocoa

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box.

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Dash: Yeah, you told me she just has,

what is I, I was gonna say brown thumb,

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but like the green thumb, but for fudge

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fudge thumb.

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Beck: that doesn't sound as appetizing.

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Dash: she just had the touch.

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Hey buddy.

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He's come to figure

out who I'm talking to.

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Beck: Hello?

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Kit.

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Dash: All right.

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You need to pick a spot.

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Beck: I've got a pile

of puppies beside me.

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Dash: Well, um, I got

out the house yesterday.

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Beck: Good For you.

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Dash: For the first time, I think,

besides walking down to my doctor

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and walking to the, you know, doing

my walks that I'm supposed to do and

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going to the store, I went and saw

somebody, saw my friends up in town,

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my friend Elise, she loves cooking.

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So I had a home cooked vegan meal, which

they're vegans and I think I told you

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before, like I get to try all kinds of.

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Uh, meat alternatives that it's

not that I would never Right.

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Obviously like anymo, many things

could be made to be delicious, but

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like, I don't know what they're called.

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I don't know how to prepare

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Beck: Right,

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Dash: I, uh, I've experienced

what it's like for someone to try

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to cook tofu and not know how to

prepare it, and that resulted in

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me thinking tofu was disgusting

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Beck: Right.

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Dash: she just fixed a, bunch of the

home, the, the, um, happy stuff, you know,

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the mashed your mashed

potatoes in your gravy and

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your, your, um, asparagus.

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I love asparagus.

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Beck: Shanna has learned over the years

how to make my mom's Mashed potatoes.

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so that's like my favorite thing,

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Dash: Mashed potatoes.

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You know, potatoes really are like that is

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if I was to believe in God or intelligent

design or something, potatoes would make

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me believe that God understood poverty.

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You

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know, like all the calories

and perfect vehicle for about

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anything you want to do to 'em.

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You can even make 'em sweet

dessert if you want to.

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Beck: Have you ever had, um, potato candy?

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Dash: potato, candy.

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Um, it doesn't ring a bell.

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Beck: So what you do is you

take a small potato and you boil

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it, right, and then you mash

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it and then you put in enough, uh,

powdered sugar to make a dough,

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and then you roll out that dough,

smear it with peanut butter, roll

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it up into a log and cut out slices.

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Dash: Never heard it called that,

but they call that, uh, peanut

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butter roll, where I'm from.

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And there's two ways of making it

that you can make the white part

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with just the powdered sugar or you

can do it with a, with a potato.

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I was surprised, like,

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um, the day, like one day I learned that

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that was actually potato

in the white part there.

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I was Like yeah, wow.

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Amazing.

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Beck: Yeah, my aunt made it when I

was little, like one piece of potato

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candy and I'm good for a decade.

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Like it is pure starch

and sugar is all it is.

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Right?

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With some, with some peanut butter

thrown in there for good taste.

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Dash: it'll take you out.

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Beck: I wonder how many of our

listeners have ever tried it?

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It's, it's, I've, I've done the

research like not in library or

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anything, but just like anecdotal

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research, asking people before, like

on Facebook, um, who has had peanut

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but ha who has had these, uh, potato

candies and who hasn't, and it seems

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to be a very Appalachian thing.

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People outside of Appalachia

don't really know about it.

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So

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Dash: I, I think that, uh, you

know, potatoes were something that

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you could come by, you could grow

'em yourself and like we were just

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kind of joking about, like they're

pretty ver um, what's it called?

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Where you can do a lot

of things with them.

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Yeah.

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Right.

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and you know, case in point, potato candy.

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Yeah.

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That stuff, oh my god.

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talk about the sweetest

shit you'll ever have.

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But it is, I love it.

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And I've had it multiple ways.

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Like you, there's one way you can kind of

bake it, whether you put potatoes in it or

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use the potatoes for the white pot or not.

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You can, um, bake it sort of like

you would, uh, uh, what's it called?

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Where they make macarons out of,

um, egg whites, you know, it's like.

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Yes.

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Right.

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You can bake, you can bake 'em, Arin, like

extremely slow and low for like hours.

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Uh, and then it becomes like a confection,

something you can actually build.

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Um, the same with this stuff.

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If you wanna bake it, it's super

low and slow for a very long time.

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Or you can just leave it wet,

refrigerated it, put the, um,

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peanut butter on it, and it's, it

becomes like something ooey gooey.

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You gotta eat it with a spoon.

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Glorious.

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Beck: Yeah.

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Dash: Yeah,

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Listeners, let us know if you've

had potato candy or if you,

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or if you called it a, something

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different, but still had it.

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Well, did y'all have a good Christmas?

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Happy Christmas everybody.

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Beck: we did.

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We, we did it the

morning before Christmas.

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We exchanged gifts, we

got some, we got each

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other a really good presents this year.

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Um, and then we hung out and ate all

day and I, um, Shannon had to work

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Christmas Eve and Christmas morning.

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Um, so I watched Christmas movies

and made snacks and hung out.

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and then I

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went with her to work yesterday.

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She works in a group home with adults

that have developmental delays and

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I went and took pictures as they

opened gifts and had breakfast and

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um, that kind of thing.

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Yeah.

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So that was fun getting to

see Santa come for them.

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and then I came home and slept and we ate

and we ate spaghetti for Christmas dinner.

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Dash: Nice.

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You know, a lot of times I'll

have Chinese for Christmas dinner

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'cause they'll be open,

those restaurants be open

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on Christmas, which is genius, right?

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I mean, um, you'll clean up

if you're the only one open on

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Christmas.

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Beck: Yeah, as we wondered about

on Christmas Day, we noticed that

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the consistently all the, all

the Chinese places were open.

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Um, and a couple of coffee shops, which

is I got a bagel at a big be 'cause

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I was hungry in the middle of the

day and there was nothing else open.

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So

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Dash: Yeah.

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There was not much open here.

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Like a, um, gas stations will be open

in the first half of the day, But yeah.

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And, um, you know, our, our family

does kind of like a big holiday all

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rolled into one on Thanksgiving.

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So a lot of times I'm

by myself on Christmas,

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so yeah, I'll just find the

nearest, um, Chinese food place

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and then hang out by myself.

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Beck: yeah,

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two new Christmas movies.

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I watched, um, The Candy Cane Lane.

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It has Eddie Murphy in it.

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And then there was, oh, what fun on Prime

that had Michelle Pfeiffer as the mom.

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They, for Christmas movies,

they weren't bad, but they're,

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they were both new This year

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Dash: Oh, okay.

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Beck: we did not watch our

annual, uh, viewing of Scrooge.

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That's the one we watch every year.

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We just didn't get around to it this year.

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Um, it might still happen today.

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You never

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Dash: Well, I actually, um, didn't

do my annual viewing either.

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I normally watch Krampus, Or in sometimes

a violent night, which that one's, I

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think it's just that one's like 2022.

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It's not very old, but I, I

like, um, horror holiday movies.

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And there's some really standout

versions of Christmas horror

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movies or action movies, which is

technically what violent night is.

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but my friends, they watched, they have,

they had theirs on, so they were watching

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a Muppet Christmas Carol, and then Elf,

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neither of which I had seen in a very long

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time, probably decades.

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Beck: Right.

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Elfa is the movie my

sister always watches.

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So when we were still doing Christmases

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at Mom's, I, I've watched that a few

times that in a Christmas story they

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always watched a Christmas story on TBS.

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yeah, I haven't watched either

of those movies in a long time.

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Dash: listeners tell if you have a, a

holiday movie, it is just very common.

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I'm discovering for people to have,

like I watch this every year on

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than or Christmas or Thanksgiving

or whatever holiday you celebrate.

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Uh, let us know what it is.

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I read an article about how the Family

Stone became an ironic, um, yearly

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tradition for a lot of like white

middle class families, for sort of

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just like strange industry reasons.

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One, it was, um, a box office bomb.

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And so it went into, um, you know,

television went into like pre pretty

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early and cheaply, but also it's uh,

it's uh, 'cause I watched it when it

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came out and it is just like the level

of dysfunction of this family and.

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The ways that, like almost every nightmare

scenario for interacting with a new family

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member as a, as a member of a partnership.

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You know, like you're meeting your in-laws

or something and it has a, a big cast.

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I think it's got the,

you know, McConaughey

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and Sarah Jessica Parker.

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It's got Claire Danes.

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Um, Diane Keaton.

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Beck: That's a big cast.

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Dash: Yeah.

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In, in the, so something that we

loved to do in the post nine 11 era.

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And this'll kind of transition

us over into talking about

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something we need to talk about.

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Uh, post nine 11 American, um,

cinema, loved an ensemble cast,

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massive star packed, ensembles.

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Like we saw this repeated

over and over again.

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Folks were coming outta

retirement to star in family.

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Like family drama slash comedy

things where the shrew learns the

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era of her ways and settles down.

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One of my favorite examples has, uh,

Sean Connery had Vanessa Redgrave

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in it, Jillian Anderson, Madeline

Sto, Dennis Quaid, John Stewart,

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Angeline Jolie, Ryan Philippi, any.

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Follows a format that was also very

common in the post nine 11 era of, we

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meet each of these people individually

and then learn how they're connected

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as the film goes on that we love

to do that over and over again too.

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But this one was fucking crazy.

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The stories, 'cause all these people

are doing increasingly weird shit.

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And then we just learn why.

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And it's kind of cool because one is

like Dennis Quaid, he's, he's going

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into all these different situations.

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Every time we see him, he's

going into a new place and he's

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putting on a new character,

telling a new lie about who he is.

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And we're like, why?

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Oh, who?

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Why would somebody do this?

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And turns out he's in an acting

class and this is an assignment and.

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Then, but then he's like married

to Madeline Sto, but their marriage

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is struggling and yada yada.

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Angelina Jolie's character,

she, she's a party girl.

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She likes to go out and dance and drink

and she meets Ryan Philippe, who has

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HIV and teaches her that partying is

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bad's.

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So weird.

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And then we learned that they're

all, you know, at Christmas time, I

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believe it is, or a wedding, who knows?

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Um, we're like, oh, these people

are all family in some way.

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but I, I sort of say that's rel, uh,

related because we were deciding what film

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to review next between Jennifer's body and

Tucker and Dale versus Evil and kind of

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six to one half dozen of the other to us.

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Right?

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Um, and so I put it to the viewers,

listeners, I gotta to, to the listeners,

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um, on, on all the social medias and

stuff, and kind of, we all decided

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that like they're both great films.

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Maybe reviewing Jennifer's body.

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Would be more interesting than Tucker

and Dell versus evil because of

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how Jennifer's body behaves as an

entry in that post nine 11 American

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milieu of film in a feminist context.

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Mm.

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In a, in a generational

context, in a sexuality context.

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Like there's queerness mapped onto

this and Tucker and Dale versus

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evil is just objectively fun.

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So here's what we should do is we're

gonna review Jennifer's body and

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then you should just watch Tucker

and Dale wherever you can find it,

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because you'll fucking love it.

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Like I pr, I think everybody

needs to see Tucker and Dale

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versus evil just personally,

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Beck: okay.

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I'm done with that.

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Dash: And someone who

doesn't listen to the show.

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This was in just like a random,

uh, film and TV chat I'm in.

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So they won't hear this, but they

suggested that the film is, uh,

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overrated, which is incorrect.

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I don't know how you could be that wrong.

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And if you are listening,

seek help on what planet is.

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Are we talking about the same film?

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Jennifer's body, like fucking shellacked

by critics bombed at the box office?

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Uh, not an overrated film at all.

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So, um, this one, this

episode will come out.

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On the 29th.

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So this would be our last episode of 2025.

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Beck: Oh, wow.

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Dash: The this one we're

recording right now.

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Beck: Yeah.

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Dash: So that's pretty cool.

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So that's about six months we've been

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doing this.

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' cause we started in June.

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Beck: Yeah.

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Dash: That's pretty fucking crazy.

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Beck: yeah, it doesn't seem like that

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long at all.

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Dash: So yeah, our first episode of

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And if you haven't seen

that, uh, go watch it.

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If you haven't seen it in

a while, brush up on it,

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Beck: One of the things I got

for Christmas, um, I've talked a

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little bit about my legs before.

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Dash: Mm.

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Beck: But I have lymphedema in my

legs, so they swell pretty often.

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Um, so I've, I've bought, in the last

couple of years, I've bought two or

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three brand new pairs of tennis shoes

with every intention of wearing them,

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but my feet are too swollen to get

in them, even if I buy wide ones.

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So I've been wearing the same

pair of shoes for over two years,

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because my feet fit in them.

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I've tried to buy shoes,

they just didn't work out.

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So for Christmas, Shanna

found a special brand.

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And long story short, I have a pair of

brand new tennis shoes that fit my feet,

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Dash: All right.

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Hi.

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Beck: very excited about it.

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They were like walking

on clouds yesterday.

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Dash: Awesome.

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Now we can be walking buddies.

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Beck: Yeah.

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And it really takes a toll on you

when you don't have good shoes.

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'cause I was wearing, um,

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Brooks, so they originally

were good tennis shoes.

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Just after two years of everyday wear,

I mean, you wear out a pair of shoes.

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So I'm very excited.

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Dash: Yep.

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That's awesome.

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do you have a, oh no, you don't have

a, if you have a smart watch or, or

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a Fitbit or a garment or something

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like that, like that can kind of help.

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Um, with

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Beck: Shanna has one.

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Yeah, Shanna has one.

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I'm, kind of afraid to,

'cause I kill watches.

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I always did.

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I don't know if it's different

because they're digital, but

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when I was a kid I used to kill

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watches every time I'd wear one.

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Dash: like mag magnetic field.

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Beck: I don't, I don't know what the

issue was, but I couldn't wear a watch.

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Dash: My Aunt Jenny was the same

way, but yeah, they're, they're

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like smartphones on your wrist.

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Beck: Yeah.

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Dash: What did you get

Shanna for Christmas?

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Beck: Um, what did I get?

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Shana?

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I got her, um, a ninja

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fit, which is something that she wanted.

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It's a little blender, it has

a couple of, cups with it.

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Um, I got her some

earrings that she wanted.

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I got her a set of acrylic

markers, which are really cool.

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They're like markers that are paint.

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Um, so she's gonna play with that some.

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what else did I get her?

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I got her some, uh, a

thing from five below.

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That's really cool.

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It comes with like 48 different

colors of polymer clay.

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It's, yeah.

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Dash: I love five below so much.

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Beck: yeah, I got a really cool

key chain that's a Polaroid camera.

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it's, it's really cool.

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You put, there's a button

that you push on it.

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You can actually look through the

viewfinder and you can push a button and

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a fake picture comes out of it and it

goes err and a picture comes out of it.

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It's very satisfying.

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She also got me my box of candy,

every every year when I was a kid,

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my mom would buy with my brother.

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It was Hershey Kisses with

my sister, I think it was

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Butter Mints.

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And with me it was always,

Russell Stover's candy in a box.

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Every Christmas, every

birthday, every graduation.

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Every time we celebrated

something, I got a box of candy.

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And then when mom died, Shanna kind

of took over the, the tradition

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Dash: I almost bought some, um,

ch chocolate covered cherries, but

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they were like the fancy kind and

I don't want the fancy kind, I want

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the cheap kind, so

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Beck: queen Anne's.

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Dash: yeah.

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Beck: Yeah, we get those from Kroger.

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Sometimes I allow myself one,

well my, because I could eat the

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whole box, but I allow myself

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one.

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Um, but with the Christmas candy, the, the

year mom died, I was at the post office

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mailing something on like Christmas Eve.

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And, um, the, the lady before

me, they were just talking about

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Christmas and all that kind of stuff.

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And, um, when it was my turn, she was

just chatting everybody up and I said,

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I had finally gotten my little vial

of black walnut flavoring in the mail.

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So it finally smelled like Christmas.

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'cause mom always put black walnut

flavoring in her Christmas cookie

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icing and just made it delicious.

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So I finally got that in the mail.

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And, um, then I told her, the,

the lady said, I don't know

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what I'm gonna do tonight.

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I'll probably just watch

some TV or eat these.

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And she held up a box of

Russell Stover's candy.

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And I was like, Aw.

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And I told her, you know, my mom

bought me a box of those every

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year, but she died this year.

408

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And the lady was like, I

think these are from your mom.

409

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And she gave me a box

of Russell Stove candy.

410

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It meant a lot to me.

411

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Dash: if, uh, if I could follow my

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:

loved ones around after I died and,

and give them candy, like, that's

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probably, like, that's elite haunting.

414

:

Beck: Yeah, the, the coolest thing that

I, that I give my mom cr credit for,

415

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the day that she died, uh, was

a Sunday and I had to drive

416

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250 miles home by myself.

417

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and the few hours after that she died.

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And I didn't even turn on the

radio until I got to Columbus.

419

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I was just crying and just trying to, you

know, I don't even really remember that,

420

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that two hours between moms and Columbus.

421

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And so I stopped before I

got into Columbus traffic

422

:

and I made myself calm down.

423

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I made myself get myself something

to eat and I turned on the radio, you

424

:

know, just trying to chill myself out

'cause I knew I was gonna be in traffic

425

:

and if I wasn't careful, you know.

426

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Um, and I turned on the radio.

427

:

And the first.

428

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The last thing my mom said to

me was that I was pretty, and if

429

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you knew anything about me and

my mom, that is not a compliment.

430

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She paid me ever.

431

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Like I was the opposite of

everything she dreamed of for me.

432

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and the first song that came on was

the, the Fujis, um, oh, pretty Baby.

433

:

That song.

434

:

And every song that came on after

that was a song that was, that was

435

:

a connection between me and my mom.

436

:

You will never, ever convince

me that she was not on that

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:

car ride home with me that day.

438

:

Dash: that's something I like to

see in movies when people, are

439

:

clearly communicating with, um,

someone who has died or, or just

440

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someone who's far away or something

through their environment, through

441

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like, music is a really common way.

442

:

They show that in movies.

443

:

I like to think that that

kinda shit's possible.

444

:

Beck: There's a song, it's Patty Loveless

is the singer, um, what is the name?

445

:

There's a song called How

Can I Help You Say Goodbye?

446

:

And in the, in the song, she literally

says goodbye to her dying mother.

447

:

That's the point of the song.

448

:

I had never heard it in my life.

449

:

And that was one of the songs that came

on, on the radio on my way home that day.

450

:

Dash: God, it's a wonder you made it

451

:

like that's a lot of emotion to come

452

:

through.

453

:

Beck: It really was.

454

:

And then like the 'cause my mom was a.

455

:

Goofball.

456

:

Um, so, you know, the, the song Boots with

the Fur, she, she got that in her head

457

:

for a week one time and that song came on.

458

:

Um, she, her favorite singer

of all time was Vince Gill.

459

:

And the Vince Gill, Dolly Parton.

460

:

I, I will always Love You.

461

:

Version came on like, I'm telling

you, every song was, was a

462

:

connection to Mom and it was wild.

463

:

Dash: That's probably the best way that

464

:

drive could have gone.

465

:

Beck: Yeah, It was tough.

466

:

But my dad started

getting rid of her stuff.

467

:

Like they had come and got her body 'cause

she died at like five in the morning.

468

:

Um, and they came and got her body

a couple of hours later and my dad

469

:

was clear and he gave me a bag of

stuff to take to Goodwill with me

470

:

and I just couldn't handle that.

471

:

I couldn't,

472

:

Dash: that's a bit aggressive.

473

:

Beck: Yeah, he was,

474

:

but he, he, got mad at me for

leaving, but I just couldn't, I just

475

:

wanted to go home

476

:

Dash: it's, so common for the death of a

loved one being an inciting incident for.

477

:

Family to fall out or to 'cause

it is so stressful and it often

478

:

is like that person's life and now

their death is related in some way

479

:

to whatever those stressors were.

480

:

It's really a shame.

481

:

But like it's totally understandable too.

482

:

Like I'm not gonna talk shit about anybody

that's fallen out over, uh, the death

483

:

of a loved one because people hang on to

484

:

things.

485

:

It's hard to say when

something's gonna come out.

486

:

Beck: yeah.

487

:

But, um, it's not surprising.

488

:

My dad was married before

the one year anniversary of

489

:

her, her passing came around.

490

:

You know,

491

:

Dash: he, is lickety split.

492

:

Beck: yeah, he was, he really was.

493

:

And he, he spent her life

insurance money on his new

494

:

girlfriend.

495

:

Dash: Wow.

496

:

Beck: Buying her new set of

furniture and stuff like that.

497

:

Paying off some of her

debt, buying her a ring.

498

:

Nevermind.

499

:

Let's change the subject.

500

:

Dash: I think, uh, one thing, 'cause

I, I don't know how long I'm gonna be

501

:

like not able to physically go into

work, but my mind is starting to clear

502

:

a little bit and I'm getting bored.

503

:

I've gotta come up with something to do

504

:

Beck: Write a book,

505

:

Dash: that's an idea,

or start reading again.

506

:

I forget.

507

:

I used to be a person, right.

508

:

You know, like before, before

work and before burnout.

509

:

There were things that I did that I

enjoyed, that felt good, that were just.

510

:

The kind of work I do, I really

did get sucked into this.

511

:

You are only doing something meaningful

if it improves somebody else's life.

512

:

and I've spent the past

513

:

15 years like that

514

:

Beck: Yeah.

515

:

Dash: and then just all of a

sudden turned around and I was

516

:

like, where's the rest of me?

517

:

Beck: I've decided I'm gonna try to keep

up with the gay book club as long as I

518

:

can with also working on my dissertation

just to make myself think about something

519

:

else for a little bit, uh, here and there.

520

:

Dash: It's a really good idea

521

:

Beck: the next book we're reading is

the Marsha p Johnson, uh, biography.

522

:

Dash: by tourmaline.

523

:

Beck: Yeah, that's, Yeah,

524

:

So I'm trying to get Shannon

to read it with me, so

525

:

Dash: We,

526

:

did that for our book club over

the summer, uh, for the university.

527

:

And then we brought Tormaline to talk.

528

:

Beck: Oh, wow.

529

:

Dash: she is, I've, I've run into her

a couple times just because she came

530

:

into, um, like she's what I guess what

we would call an independent scholar.

531

:

And first time I met her was 20

sixteens Creating Change in Chicago.

532

:

And she was serving on a panel there.

533

:

It was a great panel.

534

:

There was one of the founders of

the Black Lives Matter movement

535

:

and um, what was her name?

536

:

She's from the Combahee River Collective.

537

:

Barbara Smith, like old

school, second wave.

538

:

Um.

539

:

Black feminist or womanist.

540

:

She said that she was never a separatist.

541

:

But anyway, uh, just one of the most

like interesting, um, panels I've

542

:

ever seen at an academic conference.

543

:

And so that's where I first met her and

she was so, like, these are giants, right?

544

:

Barbara Smith come the fuck on.

545

:

Beck: Right.

546

:

Dash: and they sort of made

fun of her because she kept

547

:

bringing up Marsha p Johnson.

548

:

And so finally she was like,

549

:

when is the last time you saw Marsha

p Johnson brought up anywhere?

550

:

Like they had just

551

:

made that, um, damn, uh, Stonewall

movie left her out of it.

552

:

Beck: yeah,

553

:

Somehow a a, a young white

man became the center of

554

:

Dash: through the first brick,

555

:

Beck: yeah, it was bullshit.

556

:

Dash: right.

557

:

And so she, that was when she kind of

started with this, archival research,

558

:

which, that's 10 years ago now.

559

:

Right.

560

:

Which, I was just really happy

to see her, her book come

561

:

out, the Netflix, documentary.

562

:

There's some beef there, there's some

fuck shit that went down with them

563

:

using her research for that documentary.

564

:

she's not credited anywhere on it

because she didn't know that like,

565

:

you have to, you know, look out for

your research or somebody can take it.

566

:

Like people, like if you're not

guarding your, your research, your

567

:

data, if you're not like doing things

to make it proprietary to your study,

568

:

people will absolutely come in and

569

:

fuck you.

570

:

So she, I'm glad to see she got the book

count and it's, it's a very good book.

571

:

Beck: Good.

572

:

I'm excited to read it.

573

:

I got a copy from the

University Library and one from

574

:

the Wood County Library.

575

:

That way Shannon and I can both read it.

576

:

So yeah, I gotta go

pick those up this week.

577

:

Dash: there's a story I would love to

see told about the trans community, about

578

:

trans history when I was living there.

579

:

Actually I was working with

an end, um, endometrioid,

580

:

is that what it's called?

581

:

But I'm very stupid today.

582

:

I've noticed.

583

:

I'm having trouble with words.

584

:

Um, endometriosis.

585

:

Right?

586

:

That's the person that does

587

:

Beck: Well, I get what

he, I I get the idea of

588

:

what you're talking about.

589

:

Dash: okay, we just say endo.

590

:

But, um, worked with them in Toledo.

591

:

There we were gonna set up a

center that, you know, could treat,

592

:

um, trans people more locally.

593

:

'cause at the time they were all

having to go to Michigan, to Ann Arbor,

594

:

Beck: Are you trying to

595

:

say endocrinologist?

596

:

Dash: in endocrinologist.

597

:

Yeah.

598

:

Yeah.

599

:

Yeah.

600

:

Beck: Okay.

601

:

All right.

602

:

Yeah, I see one of those

too, as a diabetic.

603

:

So.

604

:

Dash: endocrinologist.

605

:

what was I even saying?

606

:

Endometriosis?

607

:

Beck: Yeah.

608

:

Dash: That's not even a thing.

609

:

Beck: I was like, okay.

610

:

So it has to do with a, a, a, an

611

:

ovary.

612

:

All right, what's or whatever, or

613

:

uterus.

614

:

Dash: Uh, anyway, um, the, they wound

up caving to political pressure.

615

:

People really didn't want there

to be a trans clinic there.

616

:

Um, and, and there was some, you know,

I, I get it, but it was frustrating.

617

:

But anyway, I was gonna call it the

Sullivan Center after this guy named

618

:

Lou Sullivan, who was, uh, an activist

pioneer in the trans community.

619

:

And what he was known for was, advocacy

and activism and raising awareness around

620

:

h how hiv aids was impacting trans men.

621

:

'cause a lot of people thought that trans

men wouldn't, they weren't catching aids,

622

:

um, because they also didn't used to

think that trans men could be gay sex.

623

:

And gender used to be so ironclad linked

to one another that they, that people

624

:

thought that you would transition uh,

625

:

like if you transitioned, it would

make you straight, basically.

626

:

Or that a person who was like afab, was

attracted to cis men that, that they

627

:

didn't think that that could exist.

628

:

That she would have to be a

lesbian first or vice versa.

629

:

For, for trans women, they had to be gay

men before they could be trans women.

630

:

And so he was attracted and dated cis men.

631

:

Died of aids and nobody would

treat him because they were

632

:

like, no, you can't exist.

633

:

You're basically politically inconvenient.

634

:

There are not gay trans men.

635

:

I would like to see a,

maybe I'll write that book

636

:

Beck: Do it.

637

:

You're the right voice at the right time.

638

:

Dash: and I got a lot of time on my hands.

639

:

Beck: I wish I could say

that I do not have a lot of

640

:

time on my hands.

641

:

No, I don't wish I could say that.

642

:

'cause I'm happy with

my job and everything.

643

:

but I've got a lot on my plate right now.

644

:

Dash: Yeah.

645

:

It's gonna be a busy uh, few months.

646

:

Right.

647

:

But that's, it's important to

remember that it's like this part will

648

:

only last 60 90 days.

649

:

Beck: Yeah, well, I, I

gave myself a few days off.

650

:

I haven't, this is the first time

I've cracked open my laptop in like

651

:

three days.

652

:

Um, but I gave myself permission

to just take a few days off

653

:

and not worry about everything.

654

:

I can start tomorrow.

655

:

That's my plan is to get busy tomorrow.

656

:

Um, but I needed a reset after this.

657

:

I mean, the semester wasn't bad.

658

:

It was just hectic and very, very long.

659

:

You need a reset after.

660

:

If you, if you don't ever give yourself

a break, then you're gonna get burnout.

661

:

And you know, I am, I felt very

close to it, if not fully there.

662

:

Um, so yeah, I gave myself a few days off.

663

:

Dash: The years.

664

:

are getting longer and harder and weirder.

665

:

And I mean, do you see that they,

they fired the ta, the Oklahoma,

666

:

Beck: Yeah.

667

:

I saw that

668

:

today.

669

:

That's some crazy bullshit,

670

:

Dash: fired doesn't just

mean fired if you're a ta.

671

:

She's also kicked outta school.

672

:

Beck: Yeah.

673

:

So she'll lose her all, any

degree progress that she's made,

674

:

Dash: Unless they're giving her a

different assistantship, which they

675

:

probably aren't because this was

676

:

probably all orchestrated

to get rid of her.

677

:

Beck: right?

678

:

Dash: The essay.

679

:

Some.

680

:

I saw somebody, I haven't read

it yet, but I saw somebody

681

:

online.

682

:

No, no, no.

683

:

Hers, I've read.

684

:

So the assignment was to react to an

article, a piece of scholarship, um,

685

:

which is not even, she didn't even really

even need to make an argument, right?

686

:

She just had to, to

stick to the, the topic.

687

:

And, um, I had assumed that the, the

essay that they were supposed to react

688

:

to was about treating gender dysphoria,

based on what she fucking wrote.

689

:

But somebody went and found the

rubric, and then they found the

690

:

essay that was assigned nothing.

691

:

It says transgender once in a footnote.

692

:

Of another art in the

title of another article.

693

:

so this was, it was actually an essay

about gender norms, things about

694

:

like, you know, how girls are playing

sports more and shit like that.

695

:

So she didn't even read the

essay and she actually said

696

:

this in one of the interviews.

697

:

She was like, yeah, I did,

I wrote that in 30 minutes.

698

:

So you read?

699

:

She said, she's like, yeah, I suddenly

remembered and I was like, oh, I have

700

:

really strong opinions about this.

701

:

I can do this really

702

:

quickly.

703

:

And so she didn't even read the fucking

essay that she was supposed to react to.

704

:

So embarrassing.

705

:

Beck: well, at least she didn't use ai,

706

:

Dash: That's true.

707

:

Beck: though the essay would've been

708

:

infinitely better.

709

:

Had had she done it.

710

:

Dash: That's true.

711

:

And all she would've had to do was

take the essay and feed it to AI

712

:

and say, write a reaction to this.

713

:

But then, and so we talked

about this once too.

714

:

Like they, she kind of had the sense

to change her argument from like,

715

:

I shouldn't have failed this to,

I should have gotten some points.

716

:

And when they fired the

teacher, that was it.

717

:

The justification was like, oh,

the essay actually deserved a three

718

:

outta 25 instead of a zero outta 25.

719

:

Mind you, three other people

also graded the essay zero.

720

:

Beck: Right.

721

:

I had to give a zero this

semester on a final paper.

722

:

Dash: You said it was a girl used ai.

723

:

Beck: yeah, like it was so

obvious that she used ai.

724

:

It was ridiculous,

725

:

Dash: I just, I miss old school cheating.

726

:

Beck: because the problem is

there's really no way to prove it

727

:

un unless you do so, unless it's

728

:

so egregious like that that

even her citations were made up.

729

:

Right.

730

:

Um, I proved that the journal that she

used for the citation didn't exist.

731

:

Like, 'cause chat GBT

totally makes 'em up.

732

:

Right.

733

:

And then turn it, turn

it in, has started an AI

734

:

detection service within it too.

735

:

And she had a 57% on AI Turnitin.

736

:

So I used those all as my,

proof and she, she admitted it.

737

:

So

738

:

Dash: Yeah.

739

:

I think more schools will probably

transition over to Google Suite

740

:

because it's pretty much, you just,

you can't get away with it at all

741

:

if you, if you're a Google school.

742

:

but then the trade off is that Google,

uh, gets to use you to make its AI

743

:

better and also owns everything.

744

:

The university, scary.

745

:

Beck: yeah.

746

:

Dash: Hi O.

747

:

He's finally doing better.

748

:

He was throwing up every

day for like a month.

749

:

I was like, he's gonna die and

I can't do anything about it.

750

:

'cause you can't, you just can't

751

:

take a pet to the vet here.

752

:

Beck: Wind is eating again.

753

:

Voraciously.

754

:

Yeah.

755

:

She eats a whole plate now every night.

756

:

So whatever was going on past

757

:

it cost us as mini fortune

and chicken nuggets.

758

:

I'll tell you that.

759

:

It was like all she would eat.

760

:

So she was like a, a

temperamental 4-year-old.

761

:

Dash: Oh man.

762

:

I've been craving just like

various garbage food, you know,

763

:

like that I could get at a

restaurant or something like that.

764

:

'cause just, I, I'm, I keep going

like, man, it's been so long since

765

:

I've had a pizza or whatever.

766

:

I did find that there's a Dollar General

767

:

20 minutes away,

768

:

so

769

:

Beck: good.

770

:

Dash: Yeah,

771

:

Beck: There are $2 Generals

in BG now, not Dollar General.

772

:

Uh, dollar Tree BG has $2 trees now.

773

:

Do you know where the Rite Aid used to be

774

:

by Big Lots

775

:

Dash: Yeah.

776

:

Beck: Side six.

777

:

They put in a Dollar Tree

there and there's also the

778

:

Dollar Tree down by Kroger.

779

:

I mean, they're like a mile and a half

apart and I don't understand why we need

780

:

two, but there's two of them there and

Big Loss went out and became an Ollie's.

781

:

Dash: Oh, I love Ollie's.

782

:

I, I think I do like

an Ollie's better than

783

:

Big Lots actually.

784

:

Beck: I've never been in Ollie's before,

785

:

Dash: Oh, you should go in there, man.

786

:

Like it's legit.

787

:

Good deals.

788

:

Beck: I never have money to

spend on stuff like that.

789

:

'cause I will spend it if I go in places

790

:

like that.

791

:

'cause I Like a Good deal.

792

:

So I just avoid it by not going in.

793

:

Dash: There's a massive, thrifter,

swap meet type thing in the cities at

794

:

the end of January.

795

:

I want to be well enough to go to,

796

:

Beck: There's a new store in Toledo

called Crazy Bends and apparently it's all

797

:

of the returns and extraneous, uh,

merchandise from Target and you can

798

:

buy it by the bin full or you can go

through the bins or whatever it is.

799

:

they, they've been crazy

busy since they opened.

800

:

Um, but I might go check

that out at some point.

801

:

Dash: yeah, there's a, there's a kind

of place, there's one in Cincinnati

802

:

I think, or I don't know if it's in

Cincinnati, but it's, it's around that

803

:

area that is all of the returns to

like the big box stores like Amazon or.

804

:

Furniture stuff, and you can go

and bid on it and like, uh, so my,

805

:

brother-in-law likes to go up and,

like he's just obsessed with deals.

806

:

They got one of these massage chairs,

like a really fancy massage chair.

807

:

I really think he said

he got it for like $2.

808

:

there's nothing wrong with it

809

:

It was just returned because I think

maybe it was the wrong color or something.

810

:

Beck: Right.

811

:

Um, the coolest access I've

ever had to that kind of

812

:

stuff was when I worked for Avon.

813

:

I wasn't an Avon lady, but I worked

for the actual company of Avon.

814

:

and it was one of their big plants, which

most of it had shut down at that point.

815

:

Um, but I did customer service.

816

:

So if the Avon lady was calling in to

buy eyeliner or whatever, I took those

817

:

calls and they're on the, on the property.

818

:

They did the returns.

819

:

So they had a company store, so you

could go in and buy like a, the, a

820

:

bag of nail polish for a dollar and

they'd provide the bag and you'd get

821

:

like 20 nail polishes or whatever.

822

:

Um, my sister, she worked at a hospital,

she still works at the hospital.

823

:

Um, but like those, those sets

that they sell for like $35 of

824

:

anti-aging cream or whatever, I could

buy whole sets of it for like $7.

825

:

She made a fortune selling

those at the hospital.

826

:

Um, it was crazy.

827

:

It was, it was really cool having

that kind of access, uh, for a minute.

828

:

So that was, that was a lot of fun.

829

:

Dash: Capitalism's weird.

830

:

Beck: It was my last

job before grad school.

831

:

Dash: Yeah.

832

:

Beck: It's crazy to think

it's been that long.

833

:

That would've been like

in the summer of:

834

:

Dash: Um, I taught for a while, uh, and,

but I worked, uh, at the bowling alley for

835

:

six years before I started grad school.

836

:

Which I'm like, now thinking back

on like what I used to make doing

837

:

that, I made like $14,000 a year.

838

:

Like

839

:

Beck: Yeah.

840

:

Dash: the best year I had

working there was like 20

841

:

KA

842

:

Beck: Yeah.

843

:

Yeah.

844

:

Dash: I don't know how I did.

845

:

I made that work.

846

:

Well, my rent was

847

:

$300.

848

:

Beck: 2025 is the first year that I've

had my full-time job for the, from January

849

:

to December and it will be the most

money I've ever made by like three times.

850

:

So,

851

:

cause I had not only the be the,

the university, but the online

852

:

school that I was teaching for,

that added another like six grand.

853

:

Dash: Nice.

854

:

The cats are really,

855

:

really staring at me.

856

:

It's kind of disturbing.

857

:

Beck: Do you think they think of us as

only thumbs or they see us for more?

858

:

More than that?

859

:

Could.

860

:

Dash: I've read that, um, like

animal behaviorists say that they,

861

:

that cats see the humans that

they live with as other cats.

862

:

but slightly less capable ones.

863

:

'cause they obviously can't, you

know, we don't communicate very well.

864

:

So, they think of us as like

kittens, but like giant kittens.

865

:

Beck: Even though we provide all

the food and steal their shit.

866

:

Dash: I don't, I don't

think they see it that way.

867

:

I do wonder what they

think of the food though.

868

:

'cause they're like, obviously

this isn't, this was never alive.

869

:

But they like it enough.

870

:

Beck: Yeah, I worry that baby,

um, because she had a whole

871

:

life of eating fresh kills,

872

:

you know, eating fresh meat

and that kind of thing.

873

:

And I worry that the, the, the food

that I'm giving her isn't good enough,

874

:

but she has gained weight and she

is ready for it every single night.

875

:

I think having a a, a constant

access to water and food is, is, is

876

:

where it's at for her at this point.

877

:

'cause she'll be 15 this

878

:

Dash: Yeah.

879

:

She's retiring in style.

880

:

Beck: Yeah.

881

:

Or 14.

882

:

She'll be 14.

883

:

A window will be 15.

884

:

maybe she's

885

:

limping now, which I I don't know

what to do about that because we

886

:

have hardwood floors, you know,

887

:

Dash: Oh.

888

:

Like

889

:

she's got arthritis.

890

:

Beck: yeah.

891

:

Oh yeah.

892

:

It takes her a minute to sit

down, like to lay in the floor.

893

:

It takes a minute for her to lower

894

:

her, her backside down there.

895

:

she's an old lady and she's big,

896

:

Dash: There's some, um,

supplements that you can give 'em.

897

:

Like sprinkle on their food.

898

:

Um,

899

:

Beck: I might look into that.

900

:

Dash: co Quin, I think

is what it's called.

901

:

Felix is gonna live forever because

he's too stupid to know that he died.

902

:

He'll die and then just

like get up and walking.

903

:

I don't

904

:

Beck: Peter or PETA's gonna

be the one that lives to be

905

:

105.

906

:

She's just too mean to ever die.

907

:

I say she's mean and she's sitting here

908

:

wearing pajamas beside me right now.

909

:

Dash: Who me,

910

:

Beck: She loves her fleece pajamas.

911

:

Dash: I, I wish my cats liked dressing up.

912

:

They do not.

913

:

Of course I haven't tried that hard and I,

914

:

think you gotta start 'em young.

915

:

Beck: Yeah, PETA has

always been a burrower.

916

:

She's always cold.

917

:

Um, when we found her, the night we

918

:

brought her home, she got into the

chair and burrowed under the blanket.

919

:

Like she came with that knowledge.

920

:

So she's always cold, so we try to keep

her dressed, especially in the winter.

921

:

Dash: It's hard.

922

:

It is hard to tell when

a chihuahua's cold.

923

:

'cause don't they kind of shake all the

924

:

time.

925

:

Beck: Um, no she doesn't.

926

:

Only when she's really mad,

which is, um, not all the time.

927

:

Only if you touch her or talk to

her or look at her or breathe in

928

:

her direction or say her name or,

929

:

Dash: I just remember these, the,

the ones that these, uh, friends

930

:

of ours parents had growing up.

931

:

Like they, there were two of them I

remember and they just shook constantly.

932

:

Beck: yeah, it's the rage within

933

:

Dash: Yeah.

934

:

Generations of rage.

935

:

Beck: Yeah.

936

:

Because people say, oh, it's not how you

raise them, it's the owner or whatever it

937

:

is.

938

:

100% I, with most dogs, I would

agree with you, but chihuahuas

939

:

are just mean little bastards.

940

:

That's how they come outta the package.

941

:

Like we have loved this dog so much.

942

:

We have given her every comfort, every,

I mean, she's living with lesbians, you

943

:

know what I mean?

944

:

Like how much better

a life could she have?

945

:

And she is still the

meanest one little brat.

946

:

Oh,

947

:

you try to love her

948

:

and then she wants

kisses at the same time.

949

:

So

950

:

Dash: You sending mixed signals?

951

:

Beck: for sure.

952

:

For sure.

953

:

Dash: Yeah.

954

:

Brisket is uh, kind of like that and

I think it's just 'cause he is young,

955

:

but um, also some cats can be like

this, like just get overstimulated.

956

:

So you, he wants to be loved on and

you love him in a little bit and

957

:

he's like, it's great.

958

:

And then all of a sudden

he's got like clamp down.

959

:

Beck: yeah.

960

:

Maybe.

961

:

Pete is Park cat.

962

:

Dash: maybe that could be it.

963

:

Maybe Chihuahua's a part cat,

964

:

Beck: Oh, she big stretch.

965

:

That's

966

:

a big stretch.

967

:

You wanna come say hi?

968

:

You wanna come say hi.

969

:

Come here, come here,

970

:

Are you doing okay?

971

:

Hi.

972

:

Just picking her up.

973

:

And I was so easy with her,

974

:

like treat her like fragile glass.

975

:

Dash: Oh,

976

:

Beck: She's

977

:

such a bra.

978

:

She's so good.

979

:

Sometimes when she wants to be, I

had to buy new dog tags this week

980

:

and that was $75 I didn't have

981

:

Dash: What do you mean dog tags?

982

:

Beck: in Lucas County, you just have

to buy dog tags license to have a dog.

983

:

Dash: What?

984

:

Beck: Wood County.

985

:

Yeah.

986

:

Dash: What are Yankees

gonna come up with next?

987

:

Beck: Yeah.

988

:

We had to, we had to show

proof that we had the dog tags

989

:

to get into this apartment.

990

:

Dash: Okay.

991

:

Beck: They use it to fund like

the, the, the county animal welfare

992

:

center and things like that.

993

:

The dog parks, all that kind of thing.

994

:

Um, but they do, they have been

known to do door to door checks.

995

:

Like if you do it one year and then don't

do it the next, they'll come knock on your

996

:

door and count your dogs and fine you.

997

:

Dash: That is, that's dystopian.

998

:

I don't know,

999

:

I know that this is how we have,

you can get nice things, right?

:

00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:24,710

Like, but I just, like, every

time I encounter some new way that

:

00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:28,820

social programs work or social

systems work, and I'm just like,

:

00:42:29,090 --> 00:42:31,070

oh, this, this really bothers me.

:

00:42:31,070 --> 00:42:31,970

Like, I don't know what I would

:

00:42:31,970 --> 00:42:34,340

do if somebody, if somebody knocked

on my door and said like, I need

:

00:42:34,340 --> 00:42:35,540

to count your dogs real quick.

:

00:42:35,998 --> 00:42:38,158

I'm sure a redneck is what will come out.

:

00:42:38,928 --> 00:42:39,378

Beck: Right,

:

00:42:41,188 --> 00:42:42,778

Dash: Hey, I'm here to count your dogs.

:

00:42:44,278 --> 00:42:46,498

You're here to count your

teeth here in a second.

:

00:42:46,498 --> 00:42:48,268

Like, what are you doing on my doorstep?

:

00:42:49,048 --> 00:42:49,738

Counting my dogs,

:

00:42:50,215 --> 00:42:53,905

Beck: But on what planet does it cost

the same and in dog licensing fees to

:

00:42:53,905 --> 00:42:57,745

have a window who is like eight pounds

and to have a baby who's over a hundred.

:

00:42:58,135 --> 00:42:59,395

And it's, that's why it's a scam.

:

00:42:59,395 --> 00:43:01,225

It's the same amount

to license both of them

:

00:43:01,895 --> 00:43:02,375

Dash: Yeah.

:

00:43:02,515 --> 00:43:05,485

Beck: I'm glad baby isn't more, I, I'm

glad, I'm kind of glad they don't do it by

:

00:43:05,485 --> 00:43:07,195

the pound because baby would be a killer.

:

00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:13,085

Dash: I had a vet in Illinois that like

every year you had to get boosters.

:

00:43:13,085 --> 00:43:18,815

The cats had to get, um, I don't

even, um, various boosters and

:

00:43:19,115 --> 00:43:22,565

Oscar was 10 at the time, 10 or 11.

:

00:43:22,955 --> 00:43:25,865

And he had gone his whole life

without ever having these.

:

00:43:26,765 --> 00:43:30,275

And so they gave him one, like

he had 'em when he was a baby,

:

00:43:30,275 --> 00:43:31,805

but like he'd never had boo.

:

00:43:31,835 --> 00:43:33,365

I didn't know anything about boosters.

:

00:43:33,752 --> 00:43:36,302

And, and they gave him one

and it almost killed him.

:

00:43:36,302 --> 00:43:41,557

He had this reaction to it, Um, I

think it's gonna cut out again.

:

00:43:41,617 --> 00:43:42,652

It's red again.

:

00:43:44,292 --> 00:43:46,377

Beck: Do you wanna try to

do the sponsor real quick?

:

00:43:46,718 --> 00:43:47,258

Dash: Yeah.

:

00:43:47,288 --> 00:43:50,678

Let me, let me get this up here.

:

00:43:51,878 --> 00:43:56,168

Um, this week's episode of Queernecks

is brought to you by that old Folgers

:

00:43:56,168 --> 00:43:58,418

can full of bacon grease on the stove.

:

00:44:00,893 --> 00:44:04,103

The most important heirloom in

the kitchen, and the reason nobody

:

00:44:04,103 --> 00:44:06,053

throws anything away without asking.

:

00:44:06,053 --> 00:44:10,043

First, it starts off, starts

off life as a coffee can.

:

00:44:10,553 --> 00:44:12,083

It's Folgers, the red label.

:

00:44:12,083 --> 00:44:14,993

The lid bent just enough to snap

if you don't treat it gentle.

:

00:44:15,143 --> 00:44:17,633

Somewhere along the line, it

stops holding coffee and starts

:

00:44:17,633 --> 00:44:20,903

holding a legacy in grease form.

:

00:44:21,263 --> 00:44:24,293

A handful of bacon grease goes

in then another than another.

:

00:44:24,293 --> 00:44:27,713

Before you know it, you've got a

creamy, opaque archive of breakfasts.

:

00:44:27,713 --> 00:44:31,583

Past this, grease has seen things.

:

00:44:31,793 --> 00:44:35,063

It has fried eggs, potatoes,

cornbread, and regret.

:

00:44:35,093 --> 00:44:36,623

It's seasoned cast iron.

:

00:44:36,923 --> 00:44:40,853

It is saved whole suppers in one

generation, quietly teaching the next.

:

00:44:40,853 --> 00:44:43,043

That flavor comes from patience and pork.

:

00:44:43,043 --> 00:44:44,303

Every house has one.

:

00:44:44,663 --> 00:44:47,843

It lives by the stove, never

refrigerated and never once

:

00:44:47,843 --> 00:44:51,293

questioned as to whether it should

be allowed to continue to stay there.

:

00:44:51,803 --> 00:44:54,533

You don't label it because everybody

knows if a visitor asks what

:

00:44:54,533 --> 00:44:55,943

it is, they're just not ready.

:

00:44:56,333 --> 00:44:59,423

If someone throws it out, a

family schism occurs immediately.

:

00:45:00,157 --> 00:45:01,477

When the queer kids learn early.

:

00:45:01,717 --> 00:45:03,007

This grease is not gendered.

:

00:45:03,007 --> 00:45:04,297

It does not care who you love.

:

00:45:04,297 --> 00:45:07,927

It will accept you fully as long as

you don't contaminate it with dishwater

:

00:45:07,927 --> 00:45:09,487

or something called olive oil.

:

00:45:09,817 --> 00:45:12,217

It's democracy in semi-solid form.

:

00:45:12,678 --> 00:45:14,628

The Folgers can teaches respect.

:

00:45:14,628 --> 00:45:16,638

You do not double dip with a dirty spoon.

:

00:45:16,698 --> 00:45:19,818

You do not sniff it suspiciously

you do not under any

:

00:45:19,818 --> 00:45:23,298

circumstances mistake it for

coffee grounds unless you want

:

00:45:23,298 --> 00:45:24,618

to be talked about forever.

:

00:45:25,398 --> 00:45:28,488

So here's to that old

Folgers can still warm,

:

00:45:28,488 --> 00:45:31,578

still useful, and still

absolutely doing the most with the

:

00:45:31,578 --> 00:45:32,178

least.

:

00:45:32,448 --> 00:45:35,988

It's a shrine to thrift

flavor and Appalachian grit.

:

00:45:36,278 --> 00:45:39,133

Beck: Every relative I have has

had one of those on their stove.

:

00:45:39,655 --> 00:45:43,135

Dash: I haven't real, I haven't had

one that often as an adult myself.

:

00:45:44,005 --> 00:45:44,185

Beck: Yeah.

:

00:45:44,185 --> 00:45:46,525

But now you can just buy

bacon grease at the store.

:

00:45:47,185 --> 00:45:47,875

Dash: You can?

:

00:45:48,325 --> 00:45:48,625

Beck: Yep.

:

00:45:49,585 --> 00:45:50,185

Dash: Oh, shit.

:

00:45:50,725 --> 00:45:51,685

Beck: Like anything else?

:

00:45:52,615 --> 00:45:57,415

Dash: Well, I was telling my vegan friends

about one of my favorite dishes, or

:

00:45:57,415 --> 00:45:59,155

my fa and my family's favorite dishes.

:

00:45:59,185 --> 00:46:04,765

Uh, kilt lettuce and onions, and trying to

think of a way to make it vegan for them.

:

00:46:04,825 --> 00:46:06,835

'cause you know, obviously they

can't have the bacon grease.

:

00:46:06,835 --> 00:46:07,435

And that's kind of.

:

00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:10,120

That's the big, that's

the cooking message.

:

00:46:10,900 --> 00:46:11,470

Beck: Right.

:

00:46:11,710 --> 00:46:15,430

Dash: So I wonder if, I mean,

because Crisco is vegan, but

:

00:46:15,430 --> 00:46:18,130

it doesn't have the flavor, so

:

00:46:18,460 --> 00:46:18,610

Beck: Yeah.

:

00:46:18,610 --> 00:46:21,280

You're not gonna get Crisco

to taste like lard ever.

:

00:46:22,090 --> 00:46:22,540

Dash: Mm-hmm.

:

00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:24,970

Beck: Lemme see if the, the

name of that bacon stuff.

:

00:46:24,970 --> 00:46:27,730

I've seen it on, uh,

reels on Facebook before.

:

00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:29,470

Dash: Wow.

:

00:46:29,650 --> 00:46:31,300

Fake and fake and grease.

:

00:46:31,690 --> 00:46:32,705

Beck: It's called Bacon up.

:

00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:33,640

Dash: Okay.

:

00:46:35,665 --> 00:46:39,355

Beck: You can buy it at Walmart

for 7 34 for a 14 ounce tub.

:

00:46:39,355 --> 00:46:43,225

Hell, or you can get a three

gallon bucket for 59.99

:

00:46:43,225 --> 00:46:43,975

at Cabela's.

:

00:46:44,065 --> 00:46:46,795

Dash: A bucket now that's

serious right there.

:

00:46:47,365 --> 00:46:50,725

Beck: Yeah, a three gallon, A three

gallon bucket of bacon grease.

:

00:46:51,565 --> 00:46:51,685

Dash: That's,

:

00:46:55,735 --> 00:46:57,295

Beck: and then there's

one called Hot Belly.

:

00:46:57,955 --> 00:47:01,045

Dash: Oh, it might have

spices and seasoning in it.

:

00:47:01,780 --> 00:47:03,130

Beck: Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.

:

00:47:03,130 --> 00:47:03,340

Well,

:

00:47:03,340 --> 00:47:06,430

Dash: I need to look into that because

there has been many times when I want to.

:

00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:08,770

I love cooking eggs in bacon grease.

:

00:47:08,770 --> 00:47:11,110

That's one of my favorite

ways to fix eggs.

:

00:47:11,590 --> 00:47:12,160

Agreed.

:

00:47:12,460 --> 00:47:14,080

Sausage grease is okay.

:

00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:16,990

Pretty much the only time I wish I

had sausage grease instead of bacon

:

00:47:16,990 --> 00:47:19,780

grease is if I'm gonna make, uh, a ru

:

00:47:20,290 --> 00:47:22,300

Beck: look at you being

fancy and call it gravy a ru.

:

00:47:23,110 --> 00:47:25,570

I know that book learning

is getting to you.

:

00:47:27,685 --> 00:47:31,195

If you're, you're raisin above your,

you're rising above your raisin now.

:

00:47:31,555 --> 00:47:32,755

Dash: Right, exactly.

:

00:47:33,055 --> 00:47:35,395

Well, do you wanna give us a

noun of Appalachian interest?

:

00:47:35,635 --> 00:47:36,805

Beck: I absolutely do.

:

00:47:37,420 --> 00:47:38,680

Let's pull it up here.

:

00:47:39,430 --> 00:47:40,120

Alright, y'all.

:

00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:43,930

I don't drink the stuff personally,

but my wife does and my daddy did.

:

00:47:44,230 --> 00:47:48,100

This week's noun of Appalachian interest

is sweet tea, also known as Appalachian.

:

00:47:48,100 --> 00:47:52,810

Holy water, diabetes and a mason jar are

just the default Appalachian beverage.

:

00:47:53,090 --> 00:47:56,300

If you ask for just plain water to

drink, someone will look at you like

:

00:47:56,300 --> 00:47:57,890

you've threatened to burn down dollywood.

:

00:47:57,920 --> 00:47:58,820

Trust me on that one.

:

00:47:59,030 --> 00:48:01,010

Real sweet tea has one rule.

:

00:48:01,010 --> 00:48:04,760

It should be sweet enough to make your

eyeball twitch if you can see through it.

:

00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:05,810

That's not sweet tea.

:

00:48:05,810 --> 00:48:07,550

That's leaf flavored disappointment.

:

00:48:08,030 --> 00:48:10,940

Proper sweet tea should be the

same shade as muddy creek after a

:

00:48:10,940 --> 00:48:13,790

thunderstorm and hit your bloodstream

so fast that you forget what you

:

00:48:13,790 --> 00:48:15,320

were mad about five minutes ago.

:

00:48:16,030 --> 00:48:18,670

Sweet tea is also the official

drink of porch gossip.

:

00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,820

Handsome won a mason jar of the

stuff and watch them immediately

:

00:48:21,820 --> 00:48:25,960

start a sentence with, now I ain't

one to talk, but it's perfect.

:

00:48:26,470 --> 00:48:30,370

It's perfect for family barbecues,

for church picnics in any situation

:

00:48:30,370 --> 00:48:32,890

where you need courage but

can't legally drink moonshine.

:

00:48:34,010 --> 00:48:37,550

And the best part, sweet tea goes

with just about absolutely everything.

:

00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:41,540

Fried chicken, funerals, basketball

games, baby showers, yard sales,

:

00:48:41,750 --> 00:48:43,490

and that one cousin's third wedding.

:

00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:45,230

So there it is sweet tea.

:

00:48:45,230 --> 00:48:47,990

The only drink that can cool you

down, hype you up and help you

:

00:48:47,990 --> 00:48:51,530

spill the metaphorical tea all

in one giant plastic pitcher.

:

00:48:53,780 --> 00:48:56,360

Dash: Yeah, I, I don't, I

can't really stomach it either.

:

00:48:56,810 --> 00:48:58,490

I, I love the process of it.

:

00:48:58,640 --> 00:48:59,125

So like, um.

:

00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:03,990

A lot of people, if you, if you

aren't from a place that, that sort

:

00:49:03,990 --> 00:49:07,650

of obsesses over sweet tea, they might

not know that there's a difference

:

00:49:07,650 --> 00:49:09,300

between sweet tea and sweetened tea.

:

00:49:09,330 --> 00:49:09,660

Right?

:

00:49:10,260 --> 00:49:11,670

Tea that's got sugar in it.

:

00:49:11,940 --> 00:49:13,080

That is not sweet tea.

:

00:49:13,200 --> 00:49:15,180

That is sweetened tea.

:

00:49:16,050 --> 00:49:22,300

Uh, real sweet tea is made with syrup

that is, uh, reduction is sort of like.

:

00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:27,790

It's almost caramelized

syrup, reduction of sugar.

:

00:49:27,790 --> 00:49:31,900

Like you can use cane sugar and sort of

caramelize it a little bit or, but you

:

00:49:31,900 --> 00:49:35,500

can use like sap, you can use brown sugar.

:

00:49:35,560 --> 00:49:39,280

Like I've almost anything that

can be reduced into a, uh, a syrup

:

00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:40,280

and that's why it's goddamn sweet.

:

00:49:41,290 --> 00:49:41,560

Beck: Yeah.

:

00:49:42,220 --> 00:49:44,140

Shanna has, Shanna perfected the recipe.

:

00:49:44,140 --> 00:49:47,560

She really went through a phase for a

while and my dad always made sun tea.

:

00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:48,910

He'd put it out on top of the car.

:

00:49:49,315 --> 00:49:52,195

I don't know if you ever had sun

tea, but Shannon's recipe, she would

:

00:49:52,195 --> 00:49:56,275

start with sugar and water and boil

it down, and then you would add the,

:

00:49:56,670 --> 00:49:58,765

the, the tea bags for five minutes.

:

00:49:58,765 --> 00:50:00,235

You can only steep 'em for five minutes.

:

00:50:00,235 --> 00:50:01,195

That's the trick to it.

:

00:50:01,615 --> 00:50:05,035

And then you add water to make it, to

reconstitute it, to make it a full tea.

:

00:50:05,845 --> 00:50:07,375

But yeah, she, she loves it.

:

00:50:07,945 --> 00:50:10,315

I've learned to make it myself

just because I don't drink it,

:

00:50:10,315 --> 00:50:11,215

but I've learned to make it.

:

00:50:11,305 --> 00:50:14,935

So that's part of the, you're,

you're connected to it somehow.

:

00:50:14,935 --> 00:50:16,375

Somebody, you know loves sweet tea.

:

00:50:17,620 --> 00:50:21,805

Dash: And once in a while I'll be

like, yeah, I would really enjoy

:

00:50:21,805 --> 00:50:25,105

a couple of wigs of sweet tea, but

I can't drink a whole glass of it.

:

00:50:25,915 --> 00:50:28,735

And the kinds that they sell at

the grocery stores or the gas

:

00:50:28,735 --> 00:50:30,865

stations, it's not real sweet tea.

:

00:50:31,375 --> 00:50:31,705

Right?

:

00:50:31,705 --> 00:50:34,945

You, you can get like

Milo's their sweet tea.

:

00:50:35,155 --> 00:50:35,345

You know?

:

00:50:36,265 --> 00:50:37,525

It's too much for me.

:

00:50:37,525 --> 00:50:40,105

That shit is way too sweet for me.

:

00:50:40,675 --> 00:50:45,115

A lot of places that have sweet tea on,

on like fountain, like uh, drive through

:

00:50:45,115 --> 00:50:47,215

McDonald's or um, something like that.

:

00:50:47,395 --> 00:50:48,625

Burger King, they're okay.

:

00:50:48,625 --> 00:50:48,895

Well there's a

:

00:50:48,895 --> 00:50:52,555

Beck: difference between McDonald's brews,

theirs, theirs isn't a fountain one.

:

00:50:52,945 --> 00:50:54,295

Um, they actually brew it.

:

00:50:54,415 --> 00:50:55,525

So there's a difference there.

:

00:50:55,525 --> 00:50:57,115

That's why McDonald's is so popular.

:

00:50:57,505 --> 00:50:58,675

Dash: Yeah, that makes sense.

:

00:50:59,215 --> 00:51:02,005

Beck: Shannon says the ones that come

outta the fountain just aren't very good.

:

00:51:02,275 --> 00:51:03,295

You have to have it brewed.

:

00:51:03,715 --> 00:51:05,425

'cause the ones outta the

fountain aren't even tea.

:

00:51:05,755 --> 00:51:06,385

You know what I mean?

:

00:51:06,385 --> 00:51:07,345

They're tea flavored.

:

00:51:08,215 --> 00:51:08,395

Dash: Be.

:

00:51:09,535 --> 00:51:13,495

It's like a mixture of, of

flavor and just some water.

:

00:51:14,065 --> 00:51:14,275

Beck: Yeah.

:

00:51:14,335 --> 00:51:15,415

TFA flavored soda.

:

00:51:15,475 --> 00:51:15,865

Dash: Yeah.

:

00:51:21,625 --> 00:51:25,465

Um, I bought myself a soda

stream, so I'm getting real fancy.

:

00:51:26,005 --> 00:51:26,605

Beck: Oh, nice.

:

00:51:26,610 --> 00:51:32,755

Dash: But, but I spend a fortune

on my addiction to seltzer water.

:

00:51:33,280 --> 00:51:36,040

So I got one of those 'cause

they're, they were on sale

:

00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:37,180

yesterday 'cause it was Christmas.

:

00:51:37,180 --> 00:51:41,800

And so that's what, you know, what

the fuck ever And with, uh, subscribe

:

00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:44,560

and save to the, to the, um, flavors.

:

00:51:45,130 --> 00:51:48,400

It's like $20 every six months basically.

:

00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:48,850

So

:

00:51:48,910 --> 00:51:49,870

Beck: That's amazing.

:

00:51:50,410 --> 00:51:50,950

Dash: I know.

:

00:51:51,820 --> 00:51:53,200

Beck: I just cut out soda completely.

:

00:51:53,260 --> 00:51:54,070

I don't drink soda.

:

00:51:54,070 --> 00:51:55,930

I drink a lot of water

and sugar-free Red Bull.

:

00:51:56,050 --> 00:51:57,160

Dash: Yeah, I don't drink soda.

:

00:51:57,715 --> 00:51:59,605

I don't remember stopping it.

:

00:51:59,875 --> 00:52:03,505

Uh, 'cause I, I used to drink

it, especially when I did

:

00:52:03,505 --> 00:52:05,305

really physical labor jobs.

:

00:52:05,335 --> 00:52:07,165

Uh, I drank a ton of soda.

:

00:52:07,855 --> 00:52:10,465

It probably was the bowling alley

though, because of how dehydrated

:

00:52:10,465 --> 00:52:11,335

I would get working there.

:

00:52:11,335 --> 00:52:12,265

So I just drank, yeah.

:

00:52:12,505 --> 00:52:13,885

Um, ice water.

:

00:52:14,725 --> 00:52:16,795

And then I just never

started drinking soda again.

:

00:52:17,365 --> 00:52:17,695

Beck: Yeah.

:

00:52:18,115 --> 00:52:22,195

I intentionally gave up soda when I

was in undergrad before I quit smoking.

:

00:52:22,195 --> 00:52:24,325

It was harder to give up soda

than it was to quit smoking.

:

00:52:24,325 --> 00:52:25,045

I'll tell you that.

:

00:52:25,465 --> 00:52:28,975

Because I was a mountain doofy and I had

headaches, and you don't get headaches

:

00:52:28,975 --> 00:52:32,485

with, with cutting out cigarettes, you

just get the withdrawal symptoms, you

:

00:52:32,485 --> 00:52:33,895

know, the cravings and stuff like that.

:

00:52:33,895 --> 00:52:36,805

But with the sugar, the reduction

of the sugar and the caffeine, you

:

00:52:36,805 --> 00:52:38,425

absolutely get the withdrawal symptoms.

:

00:52:38,425 --> 00:52:42,055

You get headaches and irritability

and, and all that stuff.

:

00:52:42,145 --> 00:52:42,565

So

:

00:52:43,195 --> 00:52:46,135

Dash: the last, there have been times

when I have tried to quit smoking

:

00:52:46,135 --> 00:52:48,385

that, um, is harder than others.

:

00:52:48,445 --> 00:52:53,845

So like the, if, especially if

I am at like a high smoking,

:

00:52:53,845 --> 00:52:54,865

like chain smoking kind of.

:

00:52:55,570 --> 00:53:00,340

Um, I feel sick without the

cigarettes, but this time I barely

:

00:53:00,340 --> 00:53:02,530

noticed because I was on gabapentin.

:

00:53:02,590 --> 00:53:04,900

Gabapentin stops you from

having withdrawal symptoms.

:

00:53:05,350 --> 00:53:07,930

Oh, they give it to people

to quit, uh, drinking.

:

00:53:08,110 --> 00:53:08,560

Beck: Gotcha.

:

00:53:08,980 --> 00:53:11,830

Dash: Because it's a nerve something

or I don't know how it works.

:

00:53:11,890 --> 00:53:18,370

I just, it, I suddenly, I'd used, I used

a patch one day and you're supposed to

:

00:53:18,370 --> 00:53:21,550

be able to shower with them on, but I've

had these patches for so long, it came

:

00:53:21,550 --> 00:53:22,900

off in the shower and I didn't notice it.

:

00:53:23,530 --> 00:53:25,840

All of a sudden I was going

around and I was like, how

:

00:53:25,840 --> 00:53:27,130

long has this patch been gone?

:

00:53:27,130 --> 00:53:29,380

And I found it in the shower

and I was like, hours.

:

00:53:29,380 --> 00:53:30,910

And I haven't had any cravings.

:

00:53:30,940 --> 00:53:31,390

Okay.

:

00:53:32,410 --> 00:53:35,830

Uh, so I just didn't even

bother with the patches anymore.

:

00:53:35,980 --> 00:53:39,010

And I just am lucky.

:

00:53:39,310 --> 00:53:40,150

And I Googled it.

:

00:53:40,150 --> 00:53:42,640

I was like, what kid?

:

00:53:42,640 --> 00:53:43,600

Gabapentin caused this?

:

00:53:43,690 --> 00:53:45,310

'cause it's the only thing

I've never taken before.

:

00:53:45,460 --> 00:53:50,260

Um, and yeah, like they, people

prescribe it to help you with like

:

00:53:50,260 --> 00:53:51,670

drinking withdrawals and stuff.

:

00:53:52,585 --> 00:53:55,585

So, you know, listeners, if, if

the patches aren't working for

:

00:53:55,585 --> 00:53:58,885

you and the nicotine replacement

therapy's not working for you, ask

:

00:53:58,885 --> 00:54:00,445

for a little course of gabapentin.

:

00:54:00,445 --> 00:54:01,495

See, see what it does.

:

00:54:01,495 --> 00:54:03,205

'cause it, it just cleared me right up.

:

00:54:03,295 --> 00:54:04,225

Beck: I'm so glad you quit.

:

00:54:04,945 --> 00:54:05,485

Dash: Yeah.

:

00:54:05,485 --> 00:54:08,455

And I got using this little

app that's tracking things.

:

00:54:08,455 --> 00:54:10,320

It'll be like, yeah, your

breath don't stink anymore.

:

00:54:12,340 --> 00:54:17,215

Uh, and it gave me some, I got some

certificate I think last night.

:

00:54:17,215 --> 00:54:21,775

I haven't looked at it yet for,

'cause it's, it might be a month now.

:

00:54:22,345 --> 00:54:23,095

Beck: That's awesome.

:

00:54:23,515 --> 00:54:24,925

Think about how much money you've saved.

:

00:54:25,375 --> 00:54:27,085

Dash: That's what it, it counts that too.

:

00:54:27,205 --> 00:54:27,295

Yeah.

:

00:54:27,295 --> 00:54:29,125

It says I saved $200.

:

00:54:29,455 --> 00:54:29,635

Beck: Yeah.

:

00:54:29,635 --> 00:54:32,155

I used an app too and it, 'cause I

kept, for me and Shana, I kept track

:

00:54:32,155 --> 00:54:36,085

of how much between the two of us and

then to, for a visual reminder, we

:

00:54:36,085 --> 00:54:39,595

used dry erase markers on the bathroom

mirror and kept track of how many days

:

00:54:39,595 --> 00:54:41,020

it was and how much money we had saved.

:

00:54:41,020 --> 00:54:42,385

And that was a big incentive.

:

00:54:42,685 --> 00:54:43,165

Dash: Yeah.

:

00:54:43,165 --> 00:54:43,495

I mean it.

:

00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:47,530

It takes a while for you to have

like the health benefits, you

:

00:54:47,530 --> 00:54:51,760

know, like that, that's more

like the three to six month mark.

:

00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:56,950

And so there's a lot of space

to fill with milestones at a

:

00:54:56,950 --> 00:54:58,570

very important period in time.

:

00:54:58,570 --> 00:55:01,750

You know, they're at the

beginning, so it, it gets creative.

:

00:55:01,750 --> 00:55:04,840

It's like, you know, your

gum, your gums are healthier.

:

00:55:06,340 --> 00:55:09,850

Uh, your sense of taste

and smell is, which it is.

:

00:55:10,585 --> 00:55:14,095

All of a sudden, um, I was doing

something and I was like, it's wait.

:

00:55:14,095 --> 00:55:15,235

I can smell cigarettes.

:

00:55:15,535 --> 00:55:18,415

I disturbed some dust and the

dust had cigarette smell in it.

:

00:55:18,925 --> 00:55:21,025

And my, I'm so sensitive now.

:

00:55:21,895 --> 00:55:23,335

I can smell everything.

:

00:55:23,335 --> 00:55:24,235

I can smell the future.

:

00:55:24,895 --> 00:55:25,225

Beck: Yeah.

:

00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:28,315

That, that feeling of, that you can

smell somebody that's just smoked a

:

00:55:28,315 --> 00:55:30,175

cigarette and it's like revolting.

:

00:55:30,385 --> 00:55:30,565

Yeah.

:

00:55:30,595 --> 00:55:31,735

Really does ease up.

:

00:55:32,185 --> 00:55:34,495

Um, it's just really bad the first

couple of months after you quit

:

00:55:34,495 --> 00:55:37,255

smoking because then you smell somebody

smoking and you're like, Jesus, did

:

00:55:37,255 --> 00:55:39,235

I really smell that bad all the time?

:

00:55:39,970 --> 00:55:42,430

But then that kind of goes away

and it's kind of nostalgic for me

:

00:55:42,430 --> 00:55:44,080

now 'cause it reminds me of my mom.

:

00:55:44,470 --> 00:55:47,350

That smell of a cigarette

burning reminds me of, of home.

:

00:55:48,190 --> 00:55:49,090

Dash: Yes, it is.

:

00:55:49,090 --> 00:55:51,610

Like I miss it for that.

:

00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:54,790

Um, like now it's to the point where

like, I know if I were to smoke

:

00:55:54,790 --> 00:55:56,290

one, it would taste gross to me.

:

00:55:56,290 --> 00:55:57,550

It would make me feel sick.

:

00:55:57,580 --> 00:56:00,790

But I miss, there's like the ritual to it.

:

00:56:01,450 --> 00:56:04,990

I do have a corn cob pipe

that I used to smoke.

:

00:56:05,800 --> 00:56:09,490

With some like pot tobacco that

it's, that's very different

:

00:56:09,490 --> 00:56:10,690

than smoking cigarettes.

:

00:56:10,690 --> 00:56:13,990

You don't really inhale it, but,

you know, I, I still can't do that

:

00:56:13,990 --> 00:56:16,780

because even if you don't inhale

it, you get it in your bloodstream.

:

00:56:16,780 --> 00:56:21,550

And that, like, the big thing is

like the re the main reason I pushed

:

00:56:21,550 --> 00:56:26,230

past, like wanting to start again

was because of how much it impacts

:

00:56:26,230 --> 00:56:27,880

my healing from this surgery.

:

00:56:28,865 --> 00:56:32,590

The, the, like, the bone graft

might not take if I use nicotine.

:

00:56:34,150 --> 00:56:39,040

Any time between now and like, I

think maybe a year, like, 'cause it

:

00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:41,230

takes a long time for it to heal.

:

00:56:41,890 --> 00:56:45,640

Healing from this is gonna take fucking

ever, like, I'm already over it.

:

00:56:46,510 --> 00:56:48,790

Beck: It's so weird because

I have dueling friends.

:

00:56:48,790 --> 00:56:51,550

Um, you talk about your walks

and then my best friend is, goes

:

00:56:51,550 --> 00:56:52,955

out, out going on her walks.

:

00:56:53,635 --> 00:56:56,455

Um, because she also had a

spinal, uh, procedure recently.

:

00:56:56,455 --> 00:56:56,485

Oh.

:

00:56:56,845 --> 00:56:58,495

So I, I hear it from both of you.

:

00:56:58,495 --> 00:57:00,205

And it sounds so gruesome.

:

00:57:00,415 --> 00:57:03,205

She showed me her picture and it

was like from the middle of her back

:

00:57:03,205 --> 00:57:04,525

all the way down to her ass crack.

:

00:57:04,975 --> 00:57:06,355

They split her open in the back.

:

00:57:06,865 --> 00:57:07,075

Wow.

:

00:57:07,075 --> 00:57:07,095

Dash: Oh yeah.

:

00:57:07,165 --> 00:57:09,865

Oh, she had a, she must

have been lower down.

:

00:57:10,165 --> 00:57:10,255

Beck: Phew.

:

00:57:10,435 --> 00:57:12,235

Yeah, that shit's crazy.

:

00:57:12,235 --> 00:57:13,525

I hope I don't have to deal with that.

:

00:57:13,855 --> 00:57:16,195

'cause I whine when I

don't feel good, I whine.

:

00:57:17,875 --> 00:57:18,205

Dash: I know.

:

00:57:20,140 --> 00:57:20,560

Hey.

:

00:57:20,620 --> 00:57:26,020

Well, speaking of walks, it's three

30, so it's about just sunset here.

:

00:57:26,470 --> 00:57:26,945

No, it's four 30.

:

00:57:27,035 --> 00:57:27,385

Isn't

:

00:57:27,385 --> 00:57:27,910

Beck: it four 30 in there?

:

00:57:27,910 --> 00:57:28,120

Yeah.

:

00:57:28,120 --> 00:57:29,800

I was like, wait, am I off here?

:

00:57:29,920 --> 00:57:30,400

Dash: No.

:

00:57:31,480 --> 00:57:32,830

Beck: Yeah, it's almost dark here.

:

00:57:33,130 --> 00:57:33,820

It's five 30.

:

00:57:35,140 --> 00:57:35,380

Dash: Yep.

:

00:57:36,220 --> 00:57:37,060

Beck: It's time for dinner.

:

00:57:37,750 --> 00:57:38,290

Dash: Yes.

:

00:57:38,980 --> 00:57:39,400

Hungry.

:

00:57:39,910 --> 00:57:43,990

Well, uh, get you a copy of

Jennifer's body and meet us

:

00:57:43,990 --> 00:57:46,900

back here next week for a.

:

00:57:47,545 --> 00:57:53,425

Review slash analysis slash making

fun of a, the much maligned,

:

00:57:53,425 --> 00:57:55,285

but later, somewhat vindicated.

:

00:57:56,095 --> 00:57:58,855

Um, what's her name?

:

00:57:59,065 --> 00:58:00,355

I don't know why I'm blanking on every

:

00:58:00,445 --> 00:58:01,195

Beck: Jennifer's body.

:

00:58:01,405 --> 00:58:02,695

Dash: Oh, the woman who made it,

:

00:58:03,565 --> 00:58:04,015

Beck: oh,

:

00:58:04,825 --> 00:58:07,615

Dash: I don't know that it's

a, she's got a weird name.

:

00:58:09,895 --> 00:58:10,315

Something.

:

00:58:10,315 --> 00:58:11,365

Brody Cody.

:

00:58:11,755 --> 00:58:12,805

Diablo Cody?

:

00:58:13,195 --> 00:58:17,305

Yeah, she is the writer

and director of this movie.

:

00:58:17,455 --> 00:58:20,545

Uh, she made, I think

she made Juno as well.

:

00:58:21,175 --> 00:58:23,125

She was kind of a post nine 11 darling.

:

00:58:24,145 --> 00:58:24,535

But yeah.

:

00:58:25,255 --> 00:58:27,745

Let's, uh, let's raise

Jennifer from the Ashes.

:

00:58:29,425 --> 00:58:30,115

Beck: Sounds good to me.

:

00:58:30,115 --> 00:58:30,745

I'm excited

:

00:58:32,785 --> 00:58:34,375

Dash: and we hope you had a good break.

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I think today might be

Kwanza, I'm not sure.

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But you know, whatever you celebrate

or whoever you're celebrating

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with, hope it's going well.

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And if it's not, hope you're done soon

and we'll catch you the next week.

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Say hi to your mom, Neil.

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00:58:46,940 --> 00:58:47,160

Beck: Bye.

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Queer Appalachian Stories & Culture.
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