Episode 41

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9th Mar 2026

The Lesbian Card

Beck and Dash explore lesbian identity, butch/femme dynamics, body image pressures, student stories from the classroom, childhood memories of Appalachian songs and games, county fairs, and navigating queer culture across generations. With side trips into politics, religion, and the universal experience of being the fat kid who got attention after losing weight, Beck and Dash bring their signature blend of academic insight and mountain humor to every topic.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Welcome to Queerneck, the podcast that

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puts the Yee Hall in y'all means hall.

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I'm your host, Beck,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

and I'm your host.

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Dash.

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Welcome to today's episode.

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this morning they drowned

off a gallon of blood from me

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Oh wow.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: to try

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

They were like ringing you.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

testing for all kinds of shit.

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And, uh, because I have

pots I pass out anyway.

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Like they'll, if it's more than two

vials, they've gotta, they've gotta

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like lay me back like I'm going

into this atmosphere or something.

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Have you had to do that or are

you like, it don't bother you?

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

No, I've got plenty of blood.

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Apparently.

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Like they take seven or

eight vials sometimes.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

That's how many they took today.

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Sorry, listeners, for anybody that doesn't

like discussions of blood, but normally I.

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Get faint.

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And I'm not, it's not needles.

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It's not even blood.

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I don't know what it,

well, it's pots right?

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It doesn't have anything to do with

how I actually feel, so yeah, they

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lay me back in this like recliner.

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'cause you have to warn 'em if

you don't, you hit the floor.

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They get mad at you if you know that

you're a fainter and you don't tell 'em.

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And you know, that's fair.

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but they sort of know me now 'cause

I kept to go down there so often.

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Lately in the past several months,

I've been down there to get to

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that lab in particular, constantly.

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And so when I went in, she, I saw

she had laid out all of the vials and

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I was like, oh good god, you might

as well just get a ice pack ready.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: yeah.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: She

was like, yeah, I, I wondered

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how you were gonna hold up.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: I was

in an accident one time and damaged my

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right arm in the crease, the elbow crease.

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So I always have to have them do it on

the left side where it's not damaged.

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So they only get a

couple of chances at it.

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And I always get the one

who's brand new at it or

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: No,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: has,

has not done it before, or hasn't done

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it in a long time, or the one that

likes to hurt him or that's who I get.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: some people

just really, maybe, maybe they don't care.

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Maybe they're like, Hmm.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

think that's it.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: But honestly,

these folks are, they're all very good.

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So there's a lot of reasons I've been

lucky to have them right down the

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road and I'm kind of maybe getting

some exposure therapy on it maybe.

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'cause today, like I stayed conscious,

I was not well, but all the, all the

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precautions and stuff seem to have helped.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: I was

grading today and one of the questions,

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I don't know if you know, Naomi Wolf,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Mm-hmm.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

She wrote The Beauty Myth.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yep.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Which still stands up.

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The that particular writing is very good.

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Her, her more recent stuff

is a little off the rails.

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And I wouldn't really trust it.

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But the beauty myth, it still stands

up and it speaks to a lot of students.

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on one of the quizzes, I asked

them to tell me about a time when

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they saw the beauty myth in action.

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And because they've all seen,

you know, that kind of stuff.

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It, it's part of the socialization.

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We've all had it happen.

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And she said that recently she was

watching, or one of my students said

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that she was recently watching Instagram

and there was a girl who was doing what

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she called the headphone challenge.

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Would you like to guess what

the headphone challenge is?

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I, I really

don't think I could come up with a guess.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: That

your headphones fit around your waist?

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Oh my God.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: I

had another one say that she was told

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that she was the biggest of her three

friends, and she weighed 125 pounds.

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And so she dropped 20 pounds.

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It was down to 105,

and it was like, Jesus,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: of

your students told you this.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Hmm.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

They, like, by the end of the semester,

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they tell me about their abortions.

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They tell me about everything.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I know what,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

One girl, one time she got some

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free uh, condoms at lube, at the,

at the union, and she asked me um,

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if it was supposed to itch, and

I was like, interesting question.

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I answered her.

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Another girl got pregnant in the

middle of, not like, not in class,

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but during, during the semester,

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and they tell me everything.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I was actually

just thinking this morning about this

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discourse going on around, Hollywood's,

fairly recent, anorexia, like there's

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always been representation and, and, um,

sizeism and stuff like that onscreen in

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Hollywood in general, in the business

of making art with people's bodies.

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There's, there's been issues like

that, but, you know, people are

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really identifying this skinness

trend among, cis women, particularly

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cis straight women, a lot of them.

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And I was actually thinking

to myself like, I don't care.

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I don't care what these women look like.

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I don't care what these

celebrities look like, I just

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don't feel very connected to them.

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But.

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It's not me that's at

risk of their influence.

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It's it's kids, like your students.

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I guess that also kind of

raises a question, like, what

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does my care need to look like?

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You know, like, okay, I do care how

students are impacted by media messaging.

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What did, what do we do?

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Like, do I, do we

criticize the celebrities?

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Is it their responsibility?

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Are they victims as well?

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

We pin a lot on celebrities

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when we want to tear them down.

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Like the whole bad bunny thing,

saying that it was his job to

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unify the nation or whatever.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Mm-hmm.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: why

was it his job, the Super Bowl halftime

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performer, like when there's a president

that is supposed to do that shit,

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like in the job description, you know?

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Sure.

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We'll hold,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: yeah,

a young man completely accountable to it.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: yeah, and,

and we'll, we'll hold a stranger, a, a

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particularly a stranger with a minoritized

identity to a standard we wouldn't hold

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ourselves, our neighbor, our family,

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But the, you know, the fact is

there clearly is some sort of impact

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or influence on young people and.

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I think is, um, eating disorders in

general are the deadliest, uh, mental

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health, or mental, mental illness.

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I'm pretty sure that's what it, it's that,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I think I read that before.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

if I'm wrong listeners.

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Um, and we're not gonna spend a ton

of time on this, but I guess just to

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say I don't, it's one of those things

that I don't know how they navigate it.

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I remember being super impacted by

body image stuff in a queer way, but

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I don't know what the cis straight

woman experience of needing to, or

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whatever that need that pressure to

look a certain way, would do to you.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I always, I remember always

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being the fat girl, always.

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I was always the chubby girl.

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And then I lost some weight when

I was in high school because my

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mom put me on the finfin diet

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Right.

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I remember,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: And

so I lost some weight and I got down,

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you know, to a pretty normal size.

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And the attention that I got from

the guys, I couldn't take it.

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Like, it just grossed me out.

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And that was even before

I knew I was a lesbian.

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I just didn't like how that,

that there was such a difference

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in the way that I was treated.

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You.

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Like.

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I remember specifically a guy

named Jason Smith being like

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you look really nice today.

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And it was like, Ugh.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

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Like it wasn't like droves of them,

but there was always a handful

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that were just chasing after me

and I couldn't understand it.

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I didn't know what to do to get rid of it.

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Is that, why, is that why butch

lesbians are often fluffy?

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

What do you mean?

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Butch

lesbians, they're kind of chubby.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Not all of them.

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There's some small ones,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I, I was

thinking about like all the different,

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most people are familiar with the

different kinds of gay man, you

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know, like Bear Otter, twink, TWK,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: right,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Do you

know the different kinds of lesbians?

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: I don't.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Because, you

know, there's butch and femme, but there's

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stone butch, there's soft butch, there's

hard fem, high fem there's femme dom.

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And that's not even really

getting into like the dating role.

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This is just about the kind of

their aesthetic, their presentation.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Okay.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: bulldagger.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

How does one decide where it

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you fit in the categories?

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I

think if, if it is in any way

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analogous to gay male culture, it's

really just how you look, right?

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It's like I, there's a, it was an

interview, oh, I don't remember what po

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what show she was on, but Dylan Mulvaney

was Rec Oh, it was Monica Lewinsky's show.

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If you haven't checked out her podcast, it

is, it really has some delightful moments

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because she's, she's such a good listener.

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She's a good interviewer, and she's

genuinely curious about things that she's

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just so open-minded and she interview has

interviewed a lot of queer people and the,

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some kind of wild stuff comes up for her,

and then she's just never heard of it.

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So she'd never heard of a twink.

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And so Dylan Mulvaney was on there trying

to teach Monica Lewinsky what a twink was.

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And what Dylan said was

that she was a twink, but.

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To be a twink, you have to be hairless.

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And she was a very hairy person

before she got like electrolysis

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and stuff before she transitioned.

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So she was talking about the process

of turning her body into something

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that was congruent with the twink

aesthetic somehow that impacted

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her ability to attract a partner.

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Because the partner, because there's no

such thing as a hairy twink, I guess.

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So like it's partly based on what

you just happen to look like and then

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also maybe some personality features.

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I don't know if I was a lesbian

long enough to find out.

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People often called me a butch because

I had short hair and I wore men's

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clothes, but I didn't have, I don't

know if I embodied it or I definitely

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didn't identify with it in any way.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

that's how I feel because

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I have short hair, right?

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I've been to the barber shop many a time.

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And my wife is Shannon, looks

like somebody's soccer mom.

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You know, she just looks average.

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And so you would think that I was the

one that could use power tools, but

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she went to art school so she can use

all the power tools and I have no idea.

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She can fix things without directions.

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And I

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

for the directions, you know, like

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

you're a soft butch, I guess.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I guess I'm as soft as they come.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: A lot of,

for, especially, I think this is true for

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people, maybe just a tad bit older than

you and I and also I think that there's a

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regionality and a, and a classness to it.

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I don't think, any of the queer

people I knew where I was growing

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up that were my age, none of us

had any concept of this shit.

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But going back to like movies and

things, so like that movie bound,

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that's a very classic butch fem dynamic.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Right.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: And the way

that there are, they don't really like

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saturate the dialogue with it, but

the way that those two women embody

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those characters and the way that they,

you know, like pursue one another.

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It's actually really interesting because

just like you were saying is it Corky?

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Is her name Gina Han's character?

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I'm pretty sure it's quirky.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I've only seen that movie twice.

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And the first time I saw it I was like 20

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: yeah.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I was just getting into being gay.

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Like I had just come out and

it was like the first girl

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that I dated, it was her house

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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You told me you watched it on a date,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

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And it was just

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: a,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

yeah, pretty much.

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It's exactly what it was

like, and it was very weird.

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I appreciated it, but I did

not appreciate it at the time.

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Like.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: should,

listeners, should we review the Wakowski

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Semin lesbian film Bound for queer Necks?

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' cause there's a lot to be discussed

in here about gender roles.

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Because like in a lot of ways Quirky is

that classic, that stereotypical butch,

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like she's literally a handyman and

she knows how to do all these things.

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There's all of these.

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She, we see her doing all this

plumbing and stuff like not only

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masculine like typical masculine type

work, but we see her penetrating,

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she's sneaking out drains and shit.

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But when it comes to like the

relationship with Violet, she's

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wearing her heart on her sleeve.

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She's the biggest soft-hearted butch.

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That is like every girl who identified

as a butch that I ever hung out with,

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that was exactly what they were like,

it was like acting tough and trying, and

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they were very, like, there were certain

socially like masculine type of things

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that they would do and I identify with,

but just like softies, sweeties, whatever.

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Do you ever read any, like Leslie

Feinberg, stone Butch Blues?

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Oh

yes, I did read that a long time ago.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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That's an interesting person in general.

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I would love to reread that

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: book club.

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We should do stone butch blues.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Agreed.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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I don't know.

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I don't, I never, I never could really

like, vibe with it, but I do have

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people, I know people who are like

maybe five years older, five, five to

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10 years older than me who strongly

identify with the butch fem roles.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I've never known anybody that was

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really into it, I've known plenty

of people that had like the short

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hair and the long hair together.

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That's a common dynamic, but

I don't know a lot of people

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that have played those roles

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: There's

a, there was a joke about it

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in a short, fairly short story

arc on the L word with, um.

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You remember the, the character Max

that this is very like Midwestern,

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all American kid that comes out to LA

with Jenny later transitions into Max,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

it's been so long, so I've watched it.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Well, so

they show up and Moira gets outta

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the car and is like being very like,

oh, you ladies go inside and sit down

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and turns to Shane and is like us.

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Butches will get all the luggage out of

the car and we're very much laughing at

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her expense for I, I don't know why the

fuck they did it Sometimes that show.

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I was like, why did you do that?

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What do you want me to

feel about this right now?

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Right,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: like

you don't know what you're doing.

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And that's kind of the only time

they ever mentioned like Butch fm.

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Well, maybe not only time, but they

would talk about it in theory and then

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you would never see it in a character.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: right.

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And I don't think I would've

called Shane a very butch,

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she had the look, but

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: No,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: that was

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really about it.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: that's a,

that was a very androgynous person.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: She

looks a lot like my friend Brooke with

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the, with the collars and, and the black

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The spiky and all of that.

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She looks a lot like my friend Brooke.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I loved,

I definitely wore like button

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down shirts and ties and stuff.

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In the mid two thousands.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: We think

that, that Linda got too much chicken the

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other night and that's what made her sick.

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We don't know if it's that

or the new medicine she's on.

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'cause they put her on two medicines.

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They put her on Gabapentin and Trazodone.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Oh, that

sounds like a diabolical combination,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

One's to relax to sleep.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

but yeah, that's what I mean.

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Like

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

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The first i, first time I gave

it to her, she was drunk as hell.

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It was funny.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

here's my ga here's one.

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I have two more of these that

are actually twice as tall.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: that's

how my if we're playing that game.

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This is my metformin.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

It's like a tall boy.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

It is like, so like up to my head

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and I get two of these at a time.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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twice a day, so I take four a day.

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And so yeah, no, I have a little

container that has all my meds in

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it so that I can, I, I, I see I'm

pretty smart though, so I number them.

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I put A or P so that I know,

and then I go through, I num.

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That way I know I don't miss anything.

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And I just go in order and it

goes a lot faster that way.

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So

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I

need to get more organized.

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I say shit like that all the time,

like I'm actually gonna do it.

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Fucking Christy, Noma is fired.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

that is fantastic news.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Somebody

suffered a consequence in of sorts.

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They're treating it like

she's got some promotion,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Right.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: but the

thing they're talking about her

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doing it doesn't quite exist yet.

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So right now somebody posted a screenshot

of her LinkedIn, it just says like, um.

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Was it Director of Department

of Homeland Security?

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I can't remember what the title is.

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It's not secretary.

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Um, and then parentheses former.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

That's exactly how it should be.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yep.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

To hell with that bitch.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: And this dude

who is replacing her is a genuine moron.

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Like

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: not that,

it's not that that might spare everybody

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from him doing some similarly horrible

things, but he is a lot stupider than her.

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Like she was a scheming, cunning bitch.

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He's not

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Well, that might be a good thing.

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We'll

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: maybe.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Maybe he is not completely evil.

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We can still have hope.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Maybe

there was one clip I saw of him.

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I forget.

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So he's, he's a very big, like

proponent of not going to education.

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He doesn't have a college

degree or anything like that.

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What's his name?

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It's like Mark Wayne.

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Yeah.

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Oh God.

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He looks so stupid.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

he's from Oklahoma, I think.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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Yeah.

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And so it was a deposition of like them

in Oklahoma talking about education.

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And he said something like,

what was we ranked at?

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And the person was like, yeah,

we're, we're ranked extremely low.

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And he's like, it's number one, right?

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And she's like, no, it's not number one.

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We're not ranked number one

in the country in education.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I wonder who is

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Probably like Vermont,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

yeah, some rich,

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Well, I guess it kind of

depends on who we're asking.

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New Jersey is

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

that just moved there.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: so

like, they're number one in

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like primary through secondary.

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But their number's 36 in higher ed.

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Florida of all states is

number one in higher education.

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Who, I don't know, I, I dunno

what the metrics are on this

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I don't believe there's a single

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Ivy League school down down there.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: in Florida.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

de la creme.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Uh, maybe it's,

so like the, one of the primary metrics

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I'm seeing listed here is graduation rate.

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It's easy to graduate from your

school, uh, nation report card.

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Oh, good lord.

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This is a map That's cool and everything.

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15 most and least

educated states in the us.

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Massachusetts is number one.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

For the most educated.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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This is from Business Insider and the

median household income is 104,000.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Wow.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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Almost half of the adults in the

state have at least a bachelor's.

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Vermont is second.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: I've

only ever known one person from Vermont.

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And they were pretty wealthy.

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I, where I went to Miami of Ohio, I

knew people from all over the place

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because it was like a magnet school for

people that didn't get into the Ivys.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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Yeah, there's a whole lot of, um,

new England, Vermont, Maryland.

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It's three Connecticut.

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:

Sensing a trend here.

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Oh, Colorado.

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A wild Colorado appears

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New Jersey, Virginia, New

Hampshire, Minnesota is ninth.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: What?

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

But what's this based on?

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'cause this is the picture of

the University of Minnesota.

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So what are we, so, well again, this is

most educated states, Washington, Utah.

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' cause they're all

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: mean

those people with the magic underwear?

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yep.

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I was friends when in my, when I

was in my master's program, um, I

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became friends with this girl whose

parents were deconstructed Mormons,

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and that was the first time I

learned about the magic underwear.

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And I, for real, I thought

I was being trolled.

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I thought like, that can't be real.

445

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Like nobody, I was, I probably

really made them feel stupid.

446

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And I, I, you know, I'm sorry.

447

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I probably did, so I'll just go ahead

and say I'm sorry for doing that.

448

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But it was so beyond my comprehension

that that a, that a, not that anybody

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could believe it, but that a religion

like that could be like living at the

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same time as all the other shit we know.

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You know, like, like, wait a minute,

this, there's a college, like these

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people are at college studying shit like.

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Science and medicine and then

putting on their magic underwear

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah,

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exactly.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I mean, but,

you know, religion is fucking weird.

457

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It's, you know, if you don't,

if, if you think that one thing

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sounds crazier than whatever is

closest to you, it's just bias.

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Because I think I, I knew Jellico,

I knew some Seventh Day Adventists.

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That was snake holder.

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Snake, um, what's it called?

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Snake holders.

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Is that it?

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Handlers right.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

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Well that's a big part of

some of the Pentecostal

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Pentecostal.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yep.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

church did it, but some did.

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So I've seen it

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done when I was little.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: what

is a Seventh Day Adventist?

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I don't know, this just

sounds like the same old shit.

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Like, I can't tell the difference

between any of this stuff and any

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other denomination of Christianity

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except for the fact that

their Sabbath is a Saturday.

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I,

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

that the Jewish Sabbath?

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: OTs.

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This has become a really weird

episode of Queerneck You Guys.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

It has been geopolitical.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

Oh, it's on Friday

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Oh,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: or, okay.

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Wait.

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Shabbath is the weekly Jewish Day of

Risk starting at Sunset on Friday and

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ending after Nightfall and Saturday.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

so, so a Friday, a most of Saturday.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Mm-hmm.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: So

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I follow this group on Facebook called

a, a group where non-Jews can ask Jews

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questions, and it's a serious group.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: yeah.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

and you can ask anything you want

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about the, the Jewish religion.

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Respectfully and I have seen some of

the most interesting conversations.

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I'm, I'm very interested in

the culture of different things

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: I,

I've never asked a question because I

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wouldn't even know where to begin, but

I've learned quite a lot about history

502

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and some of the celebrations that

they do and, and that kind of stuff.

503

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I can't recommend it enough.

504

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It's really cool,

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: There's this,

um, this trainer, I think, I don't know

506

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if I told you about him, like he does,

um, like fitness content for iFit,

507

:

which is like the, the Temu Peloton.

508

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If you have a, if you have like a

Nordic track or something, you can get

509

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iFit and there's these trainers you

can, that'll take you through things.

510

:

And he, but he's also an

anthropologist, he's a doctor.

511

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And so he'll go run places and they'll

film like him in, uh, he'll run down

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the Iberian Peninsula and it'll be

a six week workout program of five

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workouts a week of just a half hour

of him taking you through a pace and

514

:

then doing a lecture on whatever.

515

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You know, the history of the

area, and like that was, it was

516

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like, it was tailor made for me.

517

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That's what turned me into a runner

was like, because , he also has

518

:

a master's in exercise science.

519

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And it's designed for people

who don't know how to run.

520

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And so the ver the first like two

straight weeks, the, it's just 30 minutes

521

:

of like, you jog for 30 seconds and

then you walk for two minutes and then

522

:

you jog for 30 seconds and walk just

on and off like that for a half hour.

523

:

So it's kind of like some couch to

5K programs, but more interesting

524

:

because he's lecturing, he's giving

a lecture about the history of the

525

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Iberian Peninsula the whole way.

526

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But a big part of that, the history

of that region is the crusades

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and how like Christianity and.

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Like Moorish, Islamic religions and

Jewish people, how they kind of all

529

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tussled and moved around that region.

530

:

Mostly it was Christianity persecuting

the Jews and the Muslims though.

531

:

America doesn't have that shit.

532

:

Like our colonial

history It's very recent.

533

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We don't have this long drawn

out history of things like

534

:

crusades from the 14 hundreds.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Right.

536

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: We

don't even really have castles.

537

:

We have a couple, but like there

were so many castles in that region.

538

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They're not even considered

historical markers.

539

:

He was like, yeah, there's people

who have spray painted this one.

540

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'cause there's just castles everywhere.

541

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'cause that's what they lived in.

542

:

Have you ever been outta the country?

543

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: I have

been to Canada exactly one time, and my

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dad was living in Detroit, and there's

a bridge that crosses over into Detroit,

545

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and that was before you needed passports.

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So one night he got a wild hair

and was like, let's go to Canada.

547

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So we crossed the bridge and

we went to a convenience store

548

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and bought Wild Cherry Pepsi.

549

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And then we stopped.

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We went through the McDonald's

drive through and got french fries.

551

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And that was my entire

Canadian exper experience.

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:

So

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: gravy?

554

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Was there gravy on the French fries?

555

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

remember, I, I, not that I re my

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dad, my, my dad probably would've

ordered that he was the kind of guy

557

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that would like that kind of thing.

558

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There's a restaurant at home called

that used to be called Pop's Diner, and

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they served fries with gravy on 'em.

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So it was something he, he probably

would've got it if they had it so.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Hmm.

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I mean, like, I accidentally crossed

the border once, but it wasn't like

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we weren't, we didn't go into Canada,

you know, like we, we were just not

564

:

paying attention to what we were

doing and wound up what we thought

565

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was a toll booth, was border crossing

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: I've

been on the American side of Niagara Falls

567

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that's, I've been, that was pretty close.

568

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And one time, Shannon, a couple, a couple

years ago, we drove to the, up the upper

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Peninsula of Michigan and we went all

the way to our GPS We just kept talking

570

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and didn't pay attention and ended up all

the way at Exit one, Sioux Salt Marie.

571

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And we, we were like, well, we're

gonna, shit, if we don't turn

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around, we're gonna go to Canada.

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Like literally, we were one

turn away from going to Canada.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: The,

um, American side of Dagara

575

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is, is kind of underwhelming

576

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

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out of the boat.

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I stayed and ordered pizza.

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I was there as a chaperone.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah, me too.

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I took the McNair Summer

Research Institute.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: went.

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That's how I got there

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

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And I walked around all of the, like

if you, if you walk to the falls, like

586

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not out on the boat, but just go down

to like, where you can see like all

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along that road there's vendors with

various kinds of foods and, you know,

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all kinds of things to, to kind of.

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Part, part you from your, your

money that you came with, but it

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doesn't feel like actual tourism.

591

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It's very like chintzy and there's

like a rainforest cafe and that's

592

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the the most touristy thing there

besides the convention center.

593

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But on the other side, like you, if you go

up to the falls and then you look across,

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they've literally got like Ferris wheels.

595

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There's a fucking carnival going

on on the Canadian side of Niagara.

596

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And so if you go down there, you're just

like, well, it looks like fun over there.

597

:

It was cool looking at night though.

598

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'cause they put the lights

through the mist and stuff.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I bet it was like the middle

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of July when we went, I think,

601

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Mm-hmm.

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

with my, with my legs and stuff,

603

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there was no way I was gonna be

able to stand in line forever.

604

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So I was like, Nope, I ain't going.

605

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And I took a Friday nap

there at the Niagara Falls

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I don't know.

607

:

why I didn't go on the,

the boat or whatever.

608

:

I can't remember.

609

:

I can't remember that

even being a discussion.

610

:

But I drove a van load

of students up there,

611

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: me too.

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dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: And we, I had

the fun v so like we had a good time.

613

:

Uh, one of the students, I'm actually

still, I don't get to talk to

614

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them much anymore, but they became

somebody who, like Sabrina became,

615

:

uh, kind of a close mentor to them.

616

:

A lot of the students that the

time that I was there as a ga.

617

:

That I, got the closest with, they

all moved to Seattle together.

618

:

They're like friendship goals.

619

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senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Oh

620

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

they're all still buddies.

621

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They live like down the street

from each other in Seattle.

622

:

I, I just hope that they're

still living, living life

623

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

that's my favorite part of my

624

:

job is working with the students.

625

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: yeah.

626

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

They can be so funny sometimes.

627

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Mm-hmm.

628

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: last

night, and here I'll read you the exact

629

:

wording of the, they were talking.

630

:

So the question was about, hang on.

631

:

Oh, you commented on this.

632

:

So you saw it.

633

:

I was grading and the sentence

said, an example of this is nine 11.

634

:

When Muslims and Middle Eastern

people were treated differently

635

:

because of what the media was saying.

636

:

We were talking about how race the

categories that, that we understand

637

:

of racial separation, how that comes

across through history and culture and

638

:

language and all that kind of stuff.

639

:

that's, they were giving me an example,

but when they said the Muslims that just

640

:

cracked me up, they did to the linens.

641

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

642

:

And the Trotskys, oh,

643

:

well, you said what?

644

:

I, you saw what I commented.

645

:

The, um, I was working with

the student on his paper in,

646

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

647

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: He was

doing a research paper, something

648

:

about the NBA and I was already like,

I don't know anything about the NBA.

649

:

Like um, whatever.

650

:

Thank you for trusting

me with this knowledge.

651

:

I don't know.

652

:

But it, he kept saying, there, there

were several phrases where he was

653

:

like, these sissies and the sissies

who were doing, you know, this or

654

:

that and the sissies are causing this.

655

:

And I was like, wow, this

is a big issue for him.

656

:

Like, he feels so passionately.

657

:

And so I had conference with him and I was

like, who, who are you TA talking about?

658

:

Like who are the sissies?

659

:

Why are you using this strong language?

660

:

And he legit had no idea

what I was talking about.

661

:

So, and now I'm thinking about it like

I was saying, like, who are the sissies?

662

:

And he's looking at me like, what

the fuck are you talking about?

663

:

And so I showed him a place

and he looked at it and then.

664

:

He stared for a while and then finally

he goes, that's supposed to say issues.

665

:

And I was like, I think we just

learned that you might be dyslexic.

666

:

Between, between that and Autocorrect.

667

:

Got you.

668

:

Good.

669

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

670

:

A couple of semesters ago I had a

student use the word assess like

671

:

15 times in one paper, but he

misspelled it every time as asses.

672

:

My

673

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Hell yeah.

674

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: ever.

675

:

And it ended up being

a, a pretty good paper.

676

:

But the, the best opening line

I have ever heard on a women's

677

:

studies paper was on Earth.

678

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

Throughout time in history

679

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

where else would we be talking about

680

:

clearly

681

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: on earth.

682

:

From the dawn of time.

683

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Oh, they're so funny sometimes.

684

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

685

:

The thing I do, I did like really

appreciate about teaching women's

686

:

studies was that even though the, you

know, the cis straight men were, were

687

:

few and far between in that course,

but there was always at least one

688

:

or two in every section I taught and

they would just, you know, reach a

689

:

point where they would go like, all

right in for a penny, in for a pound.

690

:

And they're just engaging.

691

:

Right?

692

:

And there was, I remember this one

student, he was a football player and

693

:

he showed up, you know, likely just

like coach said, you know, he was

694

:

there every single class and he tried

his best, but then all of a sudden.

695

:

Something clicked for him and he

became really invested when I started.

696

:

I, I brought up something

I was the the Bechtel test.

697

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

698

:

Do you know that?

699

:

Oh my God.

700

:

Becky, look at her butt

passes the Betal test,

701

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

Oh my God, that's so true.

702

:

Well, the Bechtel test is twofold, right?

703

:

Like, it, it comes from a comic book.

704

:

It's a joke.

705

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: right?

706

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: It's

making fun of the fact that, that this

707

:

should even be a difficult minimum to

attain, so it's not a literal test.

708

:

so that was the part that I

think really appealed to him.

709

:

Like He, he was interested in the

fact that somebody used that kind

710

:

of humor to draw attention to

something that is actually an issue.

711

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

712

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: And you know,

sometimes it really is, I, you don't want

713

:

to get into a position where you're like,

you know, applauding a man for doing the

714

:

bare minimum But it's, but it's also a

little disingenuous not to acknowledge

715

:

that you're actually kind of surprised.

716

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Well, I mean, you get a, I

717

:

get a wide variety of them.

718

:

The different kinds of guys.

719

:

Sometimes it's somebody taking a

guy, taking it with his girlfriend.

720

:

That's a common reason for

them to be in the classroom.

721

:

Sometimes they are gay and they

wanna be there to learn about

722

:

gender and stuff like that.

723

:

Sometimes they're a football te

person and they've heard the class

724

:

was easy, so they, they try that.

725

:

So I, there's a few

reasons that they take it.

726

:

Last semester I had like

first day a student tell me

727

:

that he didn't use pronouns.

728

:

So that's how we started

this semester last year.

729

:

And I was like, don't tell me that.

730

:

'cause I will make fun of you.

731

:

Like, because Yes, you do.

732

:

You know, every, like you, you definitely

do like in that sentence saying you

733

:

don't use them, they're using a pronoun.

734

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

735

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

sometimes I think you get them

736

:

that want to get in there and

prove everything you say wrong.

737

:

They wanna be confrontational, but what

they find is that, so one of the questions

738

:

I do, I do the question twice on, on two

different quizzes throughout the semester.

739

:

I say, pick any author that

I have assigned to you and

740

:

answer these questions.

741

:

Who are they?

742

:

What are their credentials?

743

:

What have they written?

744

:

And are they a trustworthy

source of information?

745

:

And I say that if you think something

I've assigned to you is bullshit,

746

:

this is the place to tell me about it.

747

:

know?

748

:

And because, and what they figure out

is that no matter who they pick, except

749

:

Naomi Wolf just about everyone that

I assign is an expert in their field.

750

:

You know, everything that,

all the readings and stuff,

751

:

like, they're the top person.

752

:

So when you realize that this is, you

know, not just a random collection

753

:

of essays that I threw together and

that it actually is a field of study

754

:

and that other people are out there

agreeing with me, you know, I think it

755

:

makes it easier for them to digest it.

756

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

That's a good idea

757

:

because if you don't know, and then it

really just sounds like somebody who's

758

:

some, so some, there's something

that happens when people are

759

:

not, it's not intelligence.

760

:

There's a kind of like a, the way they

receive information, if they receive

761

:

information passively, if everything

they know has been told to them, like

762

:

just been given to them, and that's

their thoughts, then it's reasonable

763

:

for them to assume that that's the rest.

764

:

That's the way the rest of

us get our thoughts as well.

765

:

You ever like know, um, a narcissist or

somebody who's trying to be impressive

766

:

and sound really smart, but they're

clearly just saying bullshit, but to them

767

:

it sounds, everything we say sounds that

way and they, it's reasonable for them to

768

:

assume that we're all making it up too.

769

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Right.

770

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: the idea that

someone could be smarter than them is

771

:

it doesn't enter their brain at all.

772

:

And it's like, no, no, no.

773

:

I know what I'm talking about.

774

:

So other people who know what

I'm talking about also can

775

:

understand the things I'm saying.

776

:

Nobody understands what you're saying.

777

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Right.

778

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: It's very

clear that you're just making shit up.

779

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

780

:

I get a lot of that on these quizzes,

781

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Hmm.

782

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

it, I've said it so many

783

:

times, and I'll say it again.

784

:

It is so refreshing to

be back on main campus

785

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

786

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

teaching for that other program,

787

:

those kids just did not care.

788

:

And these kids like genuinely

care, but like the answers,

789

:

I'm like, that's pretty good.

790

:

You said

791

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah,

792

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

You know, like there's some

793

:

really good work being done.

794

:

It's impressive.

795

:

And I always give extra

credit for two reasons.

796

:

One extra credit for extra work.

797

:

So if you take a question that should

be a paragraph to answer and you

798

:

really put some research and thought

in it to it, give me like a three

799

:

paragraph thing, I'll usually give

you an extra credit point for that.

800

:

And number two, you get extra credit

if you make me laugh while grading.

801

:

So those are few and far between,

but they're always worth it.

802

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: yeah.

803

:

'cause you wouldn't wanna risk too

much trying to take your, trying

804

:

to make your professor laugh.

805

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

806

:

Oh, I don't announce it.

807

:

They just get them naturally because

they just say funny things sometimes.

808

:

And I'm like, plus one LOL,

809

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: yeah.

810

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

I hide Easter eggs in my syllabi.

811

:

I used to hide 'em in my PowerPoints

and the readings too so that students

812

:

would find them, and then that way I

would know who was doing the reading.

813

:

The people that got the Easter eggs.

814

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: You know

what I was always really bad at

815

:

was writing the assignment prompts.

816

:

I, I really think that I must have

been bad at it because there was always

817

:

so much confusion and I, maybe I was

over explaining, but saying less,

818

:

didn't seem to clear things up either.

819

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

they just do not listen.

820

:

That is a hundred percent sure.

821

:

Well, yeah, either or they

don't do either of 'em.

822

:

Like on the last exam.

823

:

The way that I do my essay question

is that I'll ask you to write two

824

:

essay questions, but I'll give you

like five questions to choose from.

825

:

That way you can argue the

one that you know the best.

826

:

And I will make it like in

extra big letters, only two.

827

:

Like only write every semester

I have at least one person that

828

:

writes all eight questions.

829

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Wow.

830

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

831

:

And then I have to grade eight questions

and I give them extra credit or whatever.

832

:

But come on.

833

:

You know?

834

:

'cause

835

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah.

836

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

of effort.

837

:

I appreciate that you, that

you, that you did that, but wow.

838

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Well,

let's, maybe let's, uh, hear a word

839

:

from our sponsor for this week.

840

:

This week's episode of Queer Neck is

sponsored by the wack ass songs and rhymes

841

:

we learned growing up in Appalachia in

honor of honorary queer neck Jennifer,

842

:

who reached out this week to tell us

that she, recognized a reference I made

843

:

last week to the song Go Talent Roadie.

844

:

So somewhere along the line, lullabies

got real gentle and cute, like soft piano

845

:

stars, twinkling sheep, politely hopping

fences while everyone drifts off to sleep.

846

:

That is not the catalog of

my crazy mountain youth.

847

:

The old songs that floated around

the kitchens and porches will full of

848

:

dead geese, doomed frogs, gopher guts,

questionable courtships, and busy body

849

:

wildlife, who among us doesn't remember

exactly where we were the first time.

850

:

Our older and wiser cousin taught us

the lore and lightening of great green

851

:

gobs of greasy grimy gopher guts.

852

:

It's not all Gore though.

853

:

Consider go tell Ant roadie.

854

:

The entire premise is that somebody

needs to go and form ant roadie That

855

:

the old gray goose has died in the

mill pond, not peacefully passed away.

856

:

It is dead.

857

:

The song sends several verses

working through the emotional and

858

:

practical implications, including

what might be done with the feathers.

859

:

Then there's froggy win.

860

:

AOR frog shows up in formal wear.

861

:

To marry Miss Mouse, he brings a sword

and a pistol, which already suggests the

862

:

ceremony could go a multitude of ways.

863

:

The wedding supper gets underway and

before long, a local aquatic predator

864

:

enters the scene and ends the festivities.

865

:

Everybody has a great time up

until the moment they no longer

866

:

did and Sourwood Mountain.

867

:

Half the lyrics sound like

somebody just standing on a

868

:

ridge naming every dog they know.

869

:

While punctuating the list

with a colorful hi hoe.

870

:

It feels like a song written by

somebody who had a long afternoon,

871

:

a decent view in a banjo.

872

:

The stories wandered all over the place,

but the singing itself stuck with you.

873

:

Lyrics might involve dead

poultry, suspicious frogs, but

874

:

the feeling underneath is simple.

875

:

people keeping each other company.

876

:

That music helped families through long

winters, hard work, and the general

877

:

weirdness of living near a lot of woods.

878

:

We are indebted to the old and

weird things that made us and

879

:

grateful to have continued to find

weird and old things along the way.

880

:

Now, going up Cripple Creek and

tell 'em Queer Neck sent you,

881

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

That's fun.

882

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: we sang the

Greasy Grimy Go for Gut song all the time.

883

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: So

my dad had two that he would sing.

884

:

The, the first one my dad or my

mommy told me if I was goody, that

885

:

she would buy me a rubber dolly.

886

:

My uncle told her, I kissed a soldier.

887

:

Now she won't buy me the rubber dolly.

888

:

Yo twerp

889

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

What is a rubber dolly?

890

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: a doll.

891

:

They had a rubber, I guess.

892

:

I don't

893

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I don't

know why you'd want that, but

894

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

And then the, the, the more popular

895

:

one that I think people have heard

is the 3 6 9, the goose drunk wine.

896

:

The monkey chewed tobacco

on the streetcar line.

897

:

The line The monkey got choked, and they

all went to have it in a little rowboat.

898

:

A a,

899

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: we

did that one by jumping rope.

900

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

901

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Mm-hmm.

902

:

Did you ever jump rope?

903

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

904

:

Until I got too fat.

905

:

And then when we moved out the country,

I didn't have any kids that live

906

:

near me, so it got kind of boring

and I had a gravel driveway anyway.

907

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Yeah,

a lot of this was just the,

908

:

on the playground at Jellico.

909

:

Or with my cousins.

910

:

We didn't jump rope well, we

didn't have any flat place.

911

:

So like when we hung out,

it was like on a hillside.

912

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Did you do jump rope for your heart

913

:

and gym class where you had to raise

money and you'd gotten teams and

914

:

you had to jump rope for so long?

915

:

It was a

916

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: No.

917

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

918

:

For the heart, for

919

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Okay.

920

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

American Heart Association.

921

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I

don't recall anything like that.

922

:

I don't recall the presidential challenge.

923

:

You remember that?

924

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Oh yeah.

925

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I never

had to climb a rope or anything.

926

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: ours was

pushups and sit-ups, I think, and running

927

:

around the a mile or something like that.

928

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: No, we

just, I mean, we would, sometimes

929

:

we would have foot races and a

lot of times we'd play basketball

930

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

talking about that the other day.

931

:

I've never played a game

of basketball in my life.

932

:

It never came up in gym class.

933

:

It's never come up like I've

thrown the ball on a, with a hoop.

934

:

You know what I mean?

935

:

But I've

936

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: mm-hmm.

937

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

basketball before, which is a lesbian is

938

:

like a, a timeout kind of penalty thing.

939

:

I lose some cool lesbian points.

940

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

Your lesbian card.

941

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

that's what I was going for.

942

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205:

We played kickball a lot.

943

:

We played that outside though.

944

:

So like, there was, and of course

recess and gym class were different.

945

:

There wasn't, there was a certain

point in school, we didn't have a

946

:

gym class every year, but you always

had recess, if that makes sense.

947

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Was

your was your playground separated by sex?

948

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: No.

949

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Ours was, and

950

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: Interesting.

951

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

very weird because I've asked students

952

:

and I'm like, yeah, I, I, I've,

I've told students that for years

953

:

and they all act like I'm crazy.

954

:

But the monkey bars was right in the

middle and everybody can play on the

955

:

monkey bars, but the boys stayed on one

side and the girl stayed on the other.

956

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I've

never heard of such a thing.

957

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

958

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I think

the best playground I remember was

959

:

at our head start at at Newcombe.

960

:

It was just welded together, steel

rods and gigantic tractor tires kind of

961

:

half buried or cut into pieces and we

would just climb all over 'em and they

962

:

were spray painted different colors.

963

:

So as we'd come home with paint,

like various colors on our hands

964

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

That's a lot of fun.

965

:

Did you ever have a fireman

pole in any of your, like

966

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: mm-hmm.

967

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205:

Oh, there was, I was terrified

968

:

of it the entire time I lived in

Portsmouth, but Mound Park, they

969

:

had a little playground area.

970

:

They had a couple of slides and they had

a fireman pole and you had to climb up

971

:

it, and then you could slide down it.

972

:

Oh, I, I could never do it.

973

:

was two

974

:

chicken.

975

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: I don't,

think I would've been able to either.

976

:

I, I can't remember it

ever being around one.

977

:

The, the park we went to the most

often Jellico, like this out,

978

:

like outside of school, was Indian

Mountain State Park at the time.

979

:

There was not a lot

going on with that park.

980

:

It was a bunch of picnic tables.

981

:

It had, there was a walking

trail and just a bunch of ducks.

982

:

You could, you could paddle boat.

983

:

I, I just don't remember a

bunch else going on there.

984

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: Yeah.

985

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: We would

ride our bikes and that was about it.

986

:

senor-becko_31_03-06-2026_171205: There

was a, a little league baseball diamond.

987

:

There were two fields there,

there was a set of tennis courts.

988

:

There was a lot of green space.

989

:

In later years they built a big

wooden playground, but that was

990

:

never there when I was a kid.

991

:

We just had a metal one

up by the tennis courts.

992

:

They built an extensive wooden one

right by the mound, so that was cool.

993

:

It was a nice little park.

994

:

Had a good hill to roll

down when it was leafy.

995

:

dash_30_03-06-2026_161205: There was

some tennis courts by the high school

996

:

Jellico, but they were not maintained.

997

:

So there was grass growing up and

then there was no nets and never

998

:

saw anybody actually playing with.

999

:

The only thing they did

there was cow bingo.

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Like they would draw the,

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00:43:50,557 --> 00:43:50,847

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00:43:50,907 --> 00:43:53,817

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the bingo cards on the, the tennis

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00:43:53,817 --> 00:43:55,377

courts and then walk the cows around.

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00:43:55,777 --> 00:43:58,297

Listeners, let us know if you

don't know what cow bingo is,

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00:43:58,657 --> 00:43:59,969

-:

Did you ever play cakewalk?

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00:44:00,169 --> 00:44:00,739

-:

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00:44:01,139 --> 00:44:01,919

I never won one.

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00:44:01,919 --> 00:44:03,029

Did you ever win a cakewalk?

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00:44:03,299 --> 00:44:03,809

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00:44:03,809 --> 00:44:04,469

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00:44:04,529 --> 00:44:04,859

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00:44:05,259 --> 00:44:05,919

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I've always been

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00:44:06,941 --> 00:44:09,611

kind of, until I started calling

Bingo, I was pretty lucky.

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00:44:09,731 --> 00:44:12,821

And then I used up all of my luck by

not calling those old ladies their

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00:44:12,821 --> 00:44:15,161

bingos, and now I can't win for shit.

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00:44:15,561 --> 00:44:16,071

-:

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00:44:16,341 --> 00:44:19,371

I used all mine up finding

all those four leaf clovers.

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00:44:19,671 --> 00:44:20,121

-:

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00:44:20,521 --> 00:44:23,641

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to be time for them to be blooming soon.

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00:44:24,041 --> 00:44:26,201

I wonder if there's a patch

anywhere near my house.

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00:44:26,601 --> 00:44:26,961

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I wonder.

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00:44:27,361 --> 00:44:29,221

-:

think winter's done with us though.

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00:44:29,521 --> 00:44:30,031

-:

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00:44:30,421 --> 00:44:33,871

No, it's supposed to be in the seventies

here in the next couple of days, and

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00:44:33,871 --> 00:44:35,611

then it goes right back down to 35.

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00:44:36,011 --> 00:44:37,631

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It's 30 something here.

:

00:44:37,781 --> 00:44:40,721

It was supposed to snow though, and the

snow never happened, so that's cool.

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00:44:41,121 --> 00:44:41,301

-:

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00:44:41,481 --> 00:44:43,461

I, it was apparently got

up to 60 degrees today.

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00:44:43,461 --> 00:44:44,331

I haven't been outside.

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00:44:44,331 --> 00:44:45,891

I've been working all morning.

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00:44:46,341 --> 00:44:48,741

Well, I slept in a little bit,

but then I worked all morning.

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00:44:49,141 --> 00:44:50,431

It's spring break, man.

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00:44:50,831 --> 00:44:53,591

-:

ask, is it, it's next week for us.

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00:44:53,591 --> 00:44:55,169

I, was it this week?

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00:44:55,454 --> 00:44:55,904

-:

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00:44:55,904 --> 00:44:57,464

And I've had a cold the whole time.

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00:44:57,734 --> 00:44:57,794

I

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00:44:57,794 --> 00:44:59,474

had a, a stomach virus and a cold.

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00:44:59,504 --> 00:45:03,924

It sucks at least that it could be one

virus that combined the, the symptoms

:

00:45:03,924 --> 00:45:08,544

of both of those things or I think, I

think that I got one of each, 'cause my

:

00:45:08,544 --> 00:45:12,634

head cold isn't too bad, but the stomach

virus was pretty, I threw up at a Mexican

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00:45:12,634 --> 00:45:14,224

restaurant is all I'll say about that.

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00:45:14,374 --> 00:45:15,124

-:

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00:45:15,289 --> 00:45:15,769

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00:45:16,169 --> 00:45:17,074

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are probably not the first one.

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00:45:17,684 --> 00:45:18,914

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I had to throw up in a public

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00:45:18,914 --> 00:45:20,474

toilet, and that was disgusting.

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00:45:20,688 --> 00:45:21,468

-:

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00:45:21,831 --> 00:45:22,191

-:

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my hands for like five minutes.

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have a noun of Appalachian interest?

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00:45:26,228 --> 00:45:27,638

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I do, I do.

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I came up with a fun one for this week.

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All right.

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00:45:30,898 --> 00:45:33,958

Now if you wanna understand

Appalachia in about three hours

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00:45:33,958 --> 00:45:36,238

flat go to the county fair.

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00:45:36,568 --> 00:45:38,908

A county fair is where the

whole region shows up at.

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00:45:38,908 --> 00:45:43,198

Once farmers bring their best livestock

kids, show the animals they raised

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00:45:43,198 --> 00:45:45,103

all year through four H and FFA.

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00:45:45,538 --> 00:45:47,548

Somebody's grandma enters a pie contest.

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00:45:47,548 --> 00:45:50,038

She secretly has been preparing

for since last August.

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00:45:50,438 --> 00:45:51,998

fairs actually go way back.

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00:45:52,298 --> 00:45:55,328

The first ones in the United States

started in the early 18 hundreds

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00:45:55,328 --> 00:45:57,218

as an agricultural exhibition.

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00:45:57,578 --> 00:46:00,878

Farmers would gather to show crops,

animals, and new farming tools.

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00:46:00,938 --> 00:46:05,258

And over time these events picked up

rides, games, and food stands until

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00:46:05,258 --> 00:46:08,588

they turned into the slightly chaotic

celebration that we know today.

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00:46:08,708 --> 00:46:10,838

And by chaotic, I mean wonderful.

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00:46:11,258 --> 00:46:14,678

I mean, you've got funnel cake dust

floating through the air, like powdered

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00:46:14,678 --> 00:46:18,668

sugar, snow, somebody winning a giant

stuffed banana at the ring toss.

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00:46:19,026 --> 00:46:21,983

And then there's the line at the

freshly squeezed lemonade stand

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00:46:21,983 --> 00:46:23,963

that's been there since:

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00:46:24,363 --> 00:46:25,533

Then there are the animals.

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00:46:25,533 --> 00:46:28,623

You'll see everything from prize

hogs to chickens that look personally

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00:46:28,623 --> 00:46:32,253

offended to be there somewhere, a

teenager in boots and a belt buckle.

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00:46:32,253 --> 00:46:35,733

The size of a dinner plate is trying

to guide a stubborn goat around a ring

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00:46:35,733 --> 00:46:37,098

while a judge watches very serious.

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00:46:38,143 --> 00:46:41,113

But one of the best parts of the

county fair is the people watching.

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00:46:41,443 --> 00:46:45,703

You'll see a whole lot of Appalachian

fashion from cowboy hats to flip flops,

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00:46:45,703 --> 00:46:49,453

to work boots, and somebody's uncle

wearing camouflage shorts and an American

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00:46:49,453 --> 00:46:51,583

flag tank top like its four bowl attire.

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00:46:52,033 --> 00:46:54,763

Half the fun is just sitting on a

bench with a lemonade and watching

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00:46:54,763 --> 00:46:57,013

the parade of humanity stroll past.

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00:46:57,433 --> 00:47:00,313

Every local church seems to set up

one of these white tents where the

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00:47:00,313 --> 00:47:03,613

volunteers are selling plates of food

to raise money for youth group or

:

00:47:03,613 --> 00:47:05,533

the mission trip fund or whatever.

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00:47:05,923 --> 00:47:09,673

You walk up and somebody's grandma hands

you a foam plate piled high with things

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00:47:09,673 --> 00:47:13,900

like pulled pork, green beans, baked

beans, corn bread, and a slice pie.

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00:47:14,230 --> 00:47:17,300

It's the kind of meal that tastes

like somebody's mammal's kitchen, the

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00:47:17,300 --> 00:47:20,780

real event, the one that everybody

waits for, is the demolition derby.

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00:47:21,180 --> 00:47:25,830

you've never ever seen one, I'm sad for

you, but imagine a group of old cars or

:

00:47:25,830 --> 00:47:30,763

school buses or farm combines on their

very last legs spray painted with names

:

00:47:30,763 --> 00:47:34,600

and a derby number being driven straight

into each other while a crowd cheers.

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00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:35,770

Like it's the Super Bowl.

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00:47:36,010 --> 00:47:37,090

The goal is simple.

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00:47:37,240 --> 00:47:39,685

Keep your vehicle running

longer than everyone else's.

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00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:43,960

The last man standing wins oh, and

it is definitely loud and dusty.

:

00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:47,440

And there's fire and mud and sirens,

and it's absolutely glorious.

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00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:49,480

And here's the best part

about the county fair.

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00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:52,390

No matter where you're from in

Appalachia, when you walk through

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00:47:52,390 --> 00:47:55,840

those gates, you're gonna see somebody

you know, a cousin, a teacher, a

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00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:57,280

guy who sold your uncle a truck.

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00:47:57,280 --> 00:48:00,830

In:

rides or the livestock show.

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00:48:00,830 --> 00:48:02,990

You might show up to see your

kid in the local high school

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00:48:02,990 --> 00:48:04,400

band parading around the loop.

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00:48:04,700 --> 00:48:06,770

You might even show up

for the fried Oreos.

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00:48:06,980 --> 00:48:08,780

But most people show

up for the same reason.

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00:48:08,780 --> 00:48:11,420

They always have to see

everybody else who showed up.

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00:48:12,210 --> 00:48:12,810

-:

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00:48:13,210 --> 00:48:16,070

That's like prime people watching.

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00:48:16,470 --> 00:48:18,090

-:

last time I went, and it's been a while

:

00:48:18,090 --> 00:48:21,870

since I've been, the last time I went

there was a guy in full axle rose gear.

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00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:24,801

Like he had, he looked like

axle rose from the eighties.

:

00:48:25,041 --> 00:48:27,801

Like we, we secretly took

pictures with people.

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00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:31,460

-:

I've done that before too.

:

00:48:33,399 --> 00:48:36,429

You're not gonna do anything with it,

you know, you're just sort of like, I.

:

00:48:36,829 --> 00:48:41,719

Like there's pictures of people that

came to orientation at EKU that sometimes

:

00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:44,899

I'm just like, I can't believe I was

in the same place as this person.

:

00:48:44,899 --> 00:48:48,139

Like this is, this is

top 50 moment for me.

:

00:48:49,501 --> 00:48:51,901

There was one who looked

exactly like little bubby child.

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00:48:52,301 --> 00:48:53,201

It was awesome.

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00:48:53,601 --> 00:48:56,331

I just kept like wanting to walk near him.

:

00:48:57,481 --> 00:48:58,501

Maybe it was him.

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00:48:58,501 --> 00:48:58,801

I don't know.

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00:48:59,201 --> 00:48:59,926

-:

It might have been.

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00:49:00,326 --> 00:49:01,856

What are you gonna do for

the rest of the evening?

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00:49:02,256 --> 00:49:05,086

-:

think I'll get on my treadmill.

:

00:49:05,486 --> 00:49:09,456

I might have a hot drink, of some kind.

:

00:49:09,701 --> 00:49:10,871

Watch something stupid.

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00:49:11,271 --> 00:49:12,471

Maybe talk on the phone.

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00:49:12,871 --> 00:49:13,111

Mom.

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00:49:13,111 --> 00:49:14,281

I'm just gonna go crazy,

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00:49:14,611 --> 00:49:15,821

-:

That sounds like a fun evening.

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00:49:16,221 --> 00:49:16,441

Do

:

00:49:16,526 --> 00:49:18,206

you wander your house

when you're on the phone

:

00:49:18,606 --> 00:49:22,367

-:

sometimes like what else are you gonna do?

:

00:49:22,367 --> 00:49:22,817

You know?

:

00:49:23,217 --> 00:49:24,477

-:

and always in weird places like

:

00:49:24,477 --> 00:49:26,877

you're sitting on top of your

refrigerator and shit like that.

:

00:49:28,911 --> 00:49:32,001

-:

I think we mentioned this last time

:

00:49:32,001 --> 00:49:38,861

maybe, but, our one year anniversary

of the show is gonna be on June 1st.

:

00:49:38,861 --> 00:49:40,661

It's the first day of Pride month.

:

00:49:41,016 --> 00:49:41,306

-:

:

00:49:41,706 --> 00:49:44,646

-:

be our 53rd episode, I'm pretty sure.

:

00:49:45,046 --> 00:49:51,156

And I was like doing some, some

journaling about what might be fun to do.

:

00:49:51,396 --> 00:49:53,976

And I really am like, I'm just gonna make.

:

00:49:54,376 --> 00:49:58,036

Me and you some t-shirts,

some Queerneck t-shirts.

:

00:49:58,867 --> 00:50:03,457

I've been wanting to get a cricket and,

you know, do stuff like that for a while.

:

00:50:03,457 --> 00:50:05,227

I always, I love designing shirts.

:

00:50:05,227 --> 00:50:09,457

I design shirts for the drag shows

and stuff at school because we are

:

00:50:09,457 --> 00:50:11,257

too cheap to have graphic designers.

:

00:50:11,507 --> 00:50:13,117

So, I think I'll do that.

:

00:50:13,117 --> 00:50:17,447

And, you know, maybe, maybe we, I

make some stuff for us to do a little

:

00:50:17,507 --> 00:50:22,077

giveaway, but either way we, you

know, I'm interested in hearing from

:

00:50:22,077 --> 00:50:27,367

listeners what you all might, what might

be fun to do as, um, anything during

:

00:50:27,367 --> 00:50:31,667

Pride Month, you know, to celebrate

us managing to do this for a year and

:

00:50:31,667 --> 00:50:34,157

to celebrate pride month and whatever.

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00:50:34,557 --> 00:50:35,967

So let us know.

:

00:50:35,967 --> 00:50:38,417

You can send us an email

at mailbag@queernecks.com.

:

00:50:40,177 --> 00:50:43,627

You can message us on the

Facebook, the Queerneck Facebook.

:

00:50:44,027 --> 00:50:46,337

You can technically

message us on Instagram.

:

00:50:46,547 --> 00:50:50,703

I just don't log in there very

often, but I will read it and

:

00:50:50,703 --> 00:50:51,873

let us know what sounds fun.

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00:50:52,273 --> 00:50:52,493

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00:50:52,893 --> 00:50:53,743

-:

What are y'all doing?

:

00:50:53,933 --> 00:50:56,528

This, this, uh, Friday evening.

:

00:50:56,828 --> 00:50:58,028

Let's peek behind the kimono.

:

00:50:58,428 --> 00:51:00,818

-:

to get up pretty early in the morning.

:

00:51:01,128 --> 00:51:05,028

Every year I'm a judge for the Ohio

History Day competition on campus.

:

00:51:05,368 --> 00:51:08,809

I really like doing it, so, probably

go to bed early, so we'll probably get

:

00:51:08,809 --> 00:51:12,237

something to eat, maybe watch an episode

or two of my show call it an evening.

:

00:51:12,637 --> 00:51:14,377

-:

I've still got the last episode

:

00:51:14,377 --> 00:51:16,237

of heated rivalry to finish.

:

00:51:17,672 --> 00:51:18,507

-:

watch that or not.

:

00:51:18,907 --> 00:51:19,397

-:

:

00:51:19,797 --> 00:51:21,207

I found it an easy watch.

:

00:51:21,297 --> 00:51:21,717

You know,

:

00:51:21,732 --> 00:51:22,022

-:

:

00:51:22,167 --> 00:51:24,977

-:

like, it's, there's not they're

:

00:51:24,977 --> 00:51:25,967

not queer baiting, right?

:

00:51:25,967 --> 00:51:28,547

There's no like, ooh, will they,

won't they like these, those boys

:

00:51:28,547 --> 00:51:32,297

get to fucking, you know, like

they are, and it's, it's sweet.

:

00:51:32,357 --> 00:51:33,347

They're sweet to each other.

:

00:51:33,347 --> 00:51:34,187

It's relatable.

:

00:51:34,187 --> 00:51:38,177

There's the being closeted the pressure

to, you know, what it's actually

:

00:51:38,177 --> 00:51:40,187

like to have to come out there.

:

00:51:40,587 --> 00:51:45,117

There's not a ton of coming out stories

anymore, which is fine, because I

:

00:51:45,117 --> 00:51:50,327

don't think, I don't think Gen Z

experiences that the way that we did,

:

00:51:50,727 --> 00:51:52,707

and that's kind of what we hope for.

:

00:51:53,017 --> 00:51:53,367

-:

:

00:51:54,009 --> 00:51:55,479

-:

somebody who did have to feel

:

00:51:55,479 --> 00:51:59,089

that way, it feels very relatable.

:

00:51:59,179 --> 00:51:59,539

You know?

:

00:51:59,939 --> 00:52:00,839

It doesn't hurt.

:

00:52:01,289 --> 00:52:03,149

It feels like, oh, okay.

:

00:52:03,549 --> 00:52:05,679

Like there's no twisting

the knife, I guess.

:

00:52:05,739 --> 00:52:10,249

So it's, you know, I've, I've enjoyed it,

but I've also been kind of spacing it out.

:

00:52:10,249 --> 00:52:12,799

Like I'll watch one episode

every other week or something.

:

00:52:12,979 --> 00:52:13,399

-:

:

00:52:14,098 --> 00:52:14,318

-:

:

00:52:14,368 --> 00:52:16,348

-:

check out that show Hillbilly on Hulu?

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00:52:16,984 --> 00:52:17,194

-:

:

00:52:17,389 --> 00:52:18,049

-:

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00:52:18,449 --> 00:52:19,049

-:

:

00:52:19,449 --> 00:52:21,199

Yeah, the, the documentary.

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00:52:21,599 --> 00:52:21,889

-:

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00:52:22,289 --> 00:52:22,739

-:

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00:52:23,139 --> 00:52:23,529

Okay.

:

00:52:23,589 --> 00:52:24,969

I will do that.

:

00:52:25,029 --> 00:52:26,229

I'm pretty sure I have Hulu.

:

00:52:26,539 --> 00:52:26,699

-:

somebody else

:

00:52:26,949 --> 00:52:29,649

-:

Well, let us let y'all go.

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00:52:30,049 --> 00:52:33,149

Um, happy Women's History Month.

:

00:52:33,549 --> 00:52:34,419

History month.

:

00:52:34,819 --> 00:52:38,149

Read a feminist book this

month and tell us about it.

:

00:52:38,549 --> 00:52:40,859

-:

recommend Bell Hooks and Audrey Lorde.

:

00:52:41,279 --> 00:52:42,839

Both are fantastic reads.

:

00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:45,859

-:

if you're any of our, we have

:

00:52:45,859 --> 00:52:50,149

quite a few, um, cis straight

listeners, which is, which is neat.

:

00:52:50,539 --> 00:52:53,779

Um, but if you're one of our cis

straight male listeners, check

:

00:52:53,779 --> 00:52:57,389

out bell hooks is, oh God, now

I can't remember the name of it.

:

00:52:57,714 --> 00:52:58,539

-:

I got it right here.

:

00:52:59,019 --> 00:53:00,429

I know exactly what you're talking about.

:

00:53:00,829 --> 00:53:03,289

It is called The Will to Change.

:

00:53:03,334 --> 00:53:04,714

-:

The will to change.

:

00:53:04,834 --> 00:53:05,194

Yeah.

:

00:53:05,594 --> 00:53:06,644

Fabulous.

:

00:53:06,884 --> 00:53:12,709

Look at the, the negative impacts of

patriarchy on cis straight men and how

:

00:53:12,709 --> 00:53:13,939

y'all don't have to be living that way.

:

00:53:14,339 --> 00:53:16,349

And I can't think of

anything else to say so.

:

00:53:17,679 --> 00:53:19,029

-:

Well, yeehaw, fuck the law.

:

00:53:19,524 --> 00:53:19,974

-:

:

00:53:20,274 --> 00:53:21,774

Fuck Donald Trump Still.

:

00:53:21,774 --> 00:53:22,704

Fuck Christie Nome.

:

00:53:22,704 --> 00:53:23,934

I hope she's miserable.

:

00:53:23,979 --> 00:53:24,279

-:

:

00:53:24,279 --> 00:53:26,774

that bird, leg and ho gets kicked

out of her house and everything.

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00:53:28,183 --> 00:53:28,633

-:

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00:53:28,663 --> 00:53:29,773

Yeah, she don't deserve nothing.

:

00:53:29,773 --> 00:53:30,313

Nice.

:

00:53:30,713 --> 00:53:32,693

And uh, yeah, hang in there.

:

00:53:32,783 --> 00:53:33,263

Springs.

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00:53:33,503 --> 00:53:34,553

Springs are coming.

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Say hi to your mom and them.

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QUEERNECKS
Queer Appalachian Stories & Culture.
Join the lively hosts of QUEERNECKS for a unique podcast experience exploring the intersection of Appalachian culture and the LGBTQ+ experience. Dive into engaging stories, humorous anecdotes, and thoughtful discussions on everything from Appalachian traditions and local life to current events, LGBTQ+ issues, and building an inclusive community. If you're looking for a podcast that blends authentic Appalachian voices with insightful queer perspectives, offering both laughter and meaningful connection, then welcome to the QUEERNECKS family. Subscribe now and be part of our growing community!
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